Does anyone else get mildly offended when you come to the realisation that you've been blocked/deleted on Facebook?
Over the years I've been deleted by several people I went to school with, that never bothers me too much. Sometimes that's saved me the effort of doing it myself.
Recently I noticed I'd been deleted by some of the school mums, honestly, I'm a little hurt and kind of wondering why. I'm not a serial Facebook pest, I'm not an over sharer, I don't send candy crush requests lol. I'm friendly in my real life persona, though I am quiet and not really interested in small talk and gossip. These mums will still be nice as pie to my face but now I don't quite know if they're being genuine?
I dunno, I'm quite socially anxious, though I hide it well, this is probably why it'll bother me for longer than it should. Rationally I know this is not a huge deal and there is likely a reasonable explanation, yet my anxious side is telling me it's because they don't like me, I'm annoying or I inadvertently did something to upset them.
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I dont keep people on my facebook unless im close friends. Ive deleted a few acquaintance mums and then gone for a dinner with them or something. I hope they werent awkward or feeling like i dont like them as I do. I just dont like having them on my facebook butI might friend them but in a few months go through and if we're not really close by then, Ill remove them.
I always do a cull. If they haven't bothered interacting with me either in person or online within a month, they're gone :D
Gosh, do you have any fb friends at all 😂? Some people just don't have time for fb, then if they have a few hundred friends its hard to contact everyone regularly
Wow. I don't even post a status once a month let alone contact everyone lol.
Gosh, I don't even talk to my parents that often lol!
Hahaha yes I have over 150 friends on fb, by interaction I mean at least a like or comment on a post. I post maybe twice a week but am very active on messenger.
I have a very large family and a tight-knit circle of friends, so a like to me is suffice but I don't want people on my page seeing my kids that don't bother to interact with me or them :)
Some people barely go on Facebook. It's your choice who you have on your profile but if they don't interact a lot it's not always because they don't care. I have older family without internet who post maybe once a year because they just don't get on often.
If they’re not actively using it I don’t really understand having it in the first place
Meh, everyone uses it differently. That one time they get on and take a look would be nice for them. I don't think there should be a set amount of times you need to use Facebook in order to have it :/
I personally am one of those people who posts rarely, once a month if that. I just don't find it that important honestly. If other people do that's fine though.
Some of my older relatives only use Facebook to receive photos or updates, they don't use it in the social sense or they're not particularly tech savy and don't know how to use it well so it appears they're not actively using it. That doesn't mean it's pointless though!
I should have mentioned I meant interacted with me by phone or something counts - they'd still be a friend on FB :) I have family I see once a year friend request me but I reject.. they don't send birthday cards etc. to my kids so I don't feel they need to see his milestones etc.
I never used to be like this until my kids were born and then I felt a sense of "meh" haha!
Original poster here: I actually understand where you're coming from. I've deleted or rejected requests from many family members or acquaintances who just lurk and stalk my page for gossip (not that they'd find any). When my kids were born I became very cautious of who I added because 90% of what I share is about my kids. So now I only add people I know and trust and consider to be my friend, which I guess is why I was sort of taken aback by being deleted by these ladies as they obviously don't see me the same way. However, after reading the different perspectives here I realise they may have their own reasons!
Ah yeah that's fair enough. I have "family" who have never even met my kids (9 and 2) or bothered with them in any sense (no calls, no cards etc) so I get that. I don't have them on my Facebook either :)
It’s facebook, lots of people have various ways they manage there Facebook account and differing theories on why.
Don’t over think it. Continue to be yourself.
Depends who it is, I have old school friends delete me and I wasn't really offended by it because I probably would have ended up deleting them anyway. But then I have had people who I like delete me, or cousins that I have childhood memories with but haven't seen each other for years delete me. That kind of thing does upset me a little because it shows they don't want to keep in contact with me or keep up with what I'm doing and vice versa. For those of us that live a fair distance from our families, facebook has replaced the letter that you used to send to Grandma every now and again and tell her all of whats happening and then she would let everyone know 😂. I'm not annoying, I don't play games or start group chats or post stupid shit 50 times a day. I post probably about 10 times a week, sometimes once sometimes not at all. I have no outrageous views. I'm actually pretty boring, maybe that's why? 😂. The thing I find most awkward is then seeing someone who you have deleted or have deleted you and trying to act as you normally would. Facebook has taken over our lives 😂
A while ago I noticed a friend of mine deleted me (or so I thought) I was upset as this was a friend who I have play dates with so I was confused but I just let it go and didn't say anything.
Then one day I had a message from her asking why I had deleted her? I was like "Umm...I didn't...I thought you had deleted me?" so we re-added each other and put it down to a Facebook glitch. So it could be that.
This happened to me with my mother in law!! She was upset & told my sister in law I deleted her. I was like wtf I would never delete her. Checked my friends & she was gone!! I still don't think she believes me. Stupid Facebook causing trouble lol
I am pretty ruthless!
If you do not interact with me on a personal level it doesn't take long to delete.
I recently deleted my SIL because she was using my Facebook to pay me out to other family members (I live in another state to my family, it's our communication tool)