Is there a way to navigate them? I can never figure out if they like me or not? Or why I even care I'm 41 Years old!
But yet, there I am every school pick up and drop off - wondering if I'm going to bump into one of them, will they say hi, will the brush off my wave/hello.
A little back story - my son started kinder 5 years ago and I had 1 year old twins at home and had just given up my job. I was desperate to make some mum friends, I have no living family. I tried so hard to fit in, and join their group - I made myself look like a moron. I learned my lesson eventually and backed off, but every so often, I find myself back in that place of wanting to belong.
They are gossipy, and absolutely cruel to people in their discussions of them. They also somehow seem to know everyone's personal business and discuss it like its the morning news.
I have plenty of friends outside of this group, a very strong core group of positive women, and others that I see on a regular basis. So, I know making friends is not my problem. What is wrong with me??
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You are trying to be friends with bitches, thats whats wrong with you! I don't get this school mums thing. I have 4 kids that have been through primary school already, I don't get the big thing with other school mums? I found a few mums that were my age to have some kid related convo with at pick up time and I was happy. I never felt as though i had to be accepted by anyone there, its literally just a time to pick up kids and take them home or wherever. Take up a sport or hobby, find friends that way ☺
School mums are very much like high school girls. Their little groups are formed very quickly and early on, so if you wanted to be part of that I'd say you missed the boat - you don't really want that though do you?
Honestly Hun, school mum friendships are mostly situational (there are exceptions before I get the rebuttals), I can almost guarantee those clicky women won't even be friends once the kids grow up.
You've got your tribe, don't worry about being part of this one.
Hahahaha this is so true! Let me fill you in on something - I’m a teacher, been in the profession for years and seen so much of this and the professionals that teach their children have a very low opinion of these types of parents. they are a big fat joke!! You don’t want to be one of them trust me. Just keep on being you mamma and keep away from these morons that are setting a very poor example for their children 🙄
My friend found this too. Personally I've found the interactions I've had to be good and easy. I wonder whether demographics are a factor.
I find these friendships utterly fake. Who sees someone 10 meters away, calls out "Hiiiiiiiiiii Bettttthhhh!!!!" Walks over , hugs her, kisses her cheek, and has a 2 minute conversation? I see right through it.
My boys prep year was like this.
I was a swimming teacher, through out that year I ran a swim school.
I constantly looked like a drowned rat. Usually I came straight from work.
My boys class mums were stunning, and lovely to me if I was in normal clothes, even fussed.
If I had work clothes they wouldn't give me the time of day.
My hubby and I thought this was a great joke. They eventually imploded.
The very next year My girl started.
She is in Year 2 now, all the mums in that year are lovely and caring. We do coffee in groups or one on one no one is left out.
I speak to maybe 3 mums in my boys now year 3 group.
Those women only talk to me if they want my hubby to work for them.
The mums at my daughters school are the same! Except they have the balls to say stuff to your face which is humiliating!!! Like I wore a jumper two days in a row and they made all these comments about!! 😞
Also they need to know your business inside and out!! Like whether I’m having a third and if I’m considering it that outrageous. Mind you most of these women have one perfect child.
I find it really hard to talk to these people so I sit in my car until 2mins before the bell. I always thought It would have been nice to make friends as I have no other friends but I’m not willing to put up with it. Why are the school mums so nasty!
Stick with your friends! 🙂