Pregnant very unexpectedly- grog, medications, medical tests all before I knew...

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Pregnant very unexpectedly- grog, medications, medical tests all before I knew...

Hi Mums,
I’m 31, have a 6&8 year old (girls) and have had a rough few years with my health.
I am on meds like Endep, naproxen, enbrel, baclofen, no pre natal meds.
I was told my meds had tricked my body into thinking I was in menopause, and that expanding our family was out of the question.
I injured myself recently and have had X-rays and an MRI (no contrast used in the MRI) in the last few weeks.
I have also been drinking a glass of 2 of alcohol each night, and eating like absolute crap.
I just found out I’m pregnant. Anywhere between 2 and 6 weeks.
I go to the dr this week.
Am I right in thinking that there is no way this baby could be healthy?
If I make it that far, I’ll request an amnio.
But I’m mentally preparing myself now.
This was so so unexpected I’ve convinced myself that if I dont miscarry, the baby will be found to be extremely unwell/disabled due to all the above, and I couldn’t progress with the pregnancy (due to me losing my own mobility due to my medical issues and not being able to care for a disabled child- no negative comments please).
Please be kind with your responses.
I am an absolute friggin mess.
This baby would be so so loved... but surely it’s not possible to have a happy ending here?

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Anonymous

Babe you are overthinking it and stressing yourself out far too much. Anything wrong will be picked up in your prenatal care. You can’t stress about something that has not even happened yet. There is every chance things will work out. Just get onto your prenatal meds and get prenatal care and go from there. You can’t change what has happened so just one foot in front of the other. Best of luck!

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Anonymous

Agreed. You are definitely making this bigger in your head than it is. Talk to an obstetrician

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Anonymous

Okay, take a deep breath, it’s going to be okay.

See your GP asap and talk it through with them and start some pre-natal care to help process what’s going on and what the next steps are from here.

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Anonymous

You just need to have full transparency with your doctors, this sort of scenario is more common than you think, unexpected pregnancies happen - no one is going to hold it against you for taking medication/medical procedures and having a few drinks before you knew you were expecting (especially if you were under the impression pregnancy was unlikely).

I was 17 when I fell pregnant with my first, when I was a few weeks pregnant (unknowingly) I had a dental X-ray (actually laughed at the dental tech who asked if pregnancy was at all possible) and was going on wild weekend long benders, no prenatal vitamins and just generally not looking after myself. Of course I felt guilty as hell and spent my whole pregnancy worrying that he was going to have something wrong with him, he's almost 11 now and perfectly healthy!

Just try not to stress, like I said just be completely honest with your doctor about all this, discuss your concerns and book in for a scan as soon as possible.

Good luck xx

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Anonymous

I'd get blind went on extreme rides took no vitamins things I shouldn't have didn't know until i was 20 weeks she was born mega early from avoidable circumstances but she's deathly and normal

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Anonymous

This baby could be healthy (and I say could because it's still early on so viability is still in question). Until about 8 weeks it's still a "cell" and doesn't rely on nutrients from you so to speak. So from today onwards, get on pre-natals, drink water, talk to your doctor about medicine use and this will be a healthy baby :)

Congratulations!!!

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Anonymous

Not exactly the same, but i was on antibiotics and partying hard with alcohol and marijuana and chain smoking when i fell pregnant. All healthy.
Get healthy now and start taling extra great care of yourself, do your best and I think you should definitely be hoping for the best.

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Anonymous

Iam also on embrel and Endep and a mixture of other meds for rhumatoid arthritis and fibromyalgia and yes these meds seriously mess your cycles up. Go to your GP apt tell them.exactly what your on let them do the tests and go from there

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Anonymous

I think this is probably more common than you realise. When I fell with my 3rd it was the last thing I was expecting and thinking about. The month of contreception was stressful. Not just day to day stress im talking about life changing stress (and not in a good way)and i remember the stress bringing on my period nearly a week early. Well that turned out to be the month i fell. I had a doozey of a night one night. Jelly shots, copious amounts of alchol. I was hung over for 3 days. The day before i found out i was pregnant i was drinking again. I felt like absoulte shit for drinking, the stress, just the really bad timing but nearly 10 years later my child is perfectly healthy. Again with my fouth i went for a rare girls night only days before i did a test and she is a happy and healthy 3 yo.
Have total transparency in telling your doctor everything. But I think bub will be fine .

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