Hi fellow IM
I have a what would you do question. I have just found out I am pregnant with my 5th but the 1st with my new partner. We had both decided that we wanted to try for a baby 2 months ago. But we have also found out in the last 2 weeks that he more then likely has Motor Neuron Disease( whating for specialist neurologist appointment to confirm but this is what she believes after looking through his notes and test results). We had a conversation over the weekend and I said I don’t thinking having a baby would be fair on anyone. Only to find out 4 days later that I was already pregnant at the time and after getting the positive result I’m so confused and conflicted about what to do. Yes I have told him and we have spoken about it he is excited but also told me that it was my decision to make. We have been told that he will probably only have 12-24 months to live if the neurologist is correct. So I guess what I’m asking is given the situation what others would do and opinions that might help making this decision a little easier
Pregnancy and medical problems with the farther
Pregnancy and medical problems with the farther
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It is a hard one but babies do not come so easily maybe it was meant to be ! I am so sorry if this is th diagnosis and it is tragic ! But if it is the baby will bring you so much joy and to YOU partner and his legacy will live on ! This is heartbreaking ! Only you can decide what is beatific you x
You might lose 1 person you love. Why lose 2?
What a horribly heartbreaking situation. I couldnt imagine having to make this decision, however i do have a few questions for you to ask yourself and i really domt mean to offend in anyway but these would be the questions I would be asking myself.
•Could I cope with this diagnosis and pregnacy/ newborn and the day to day life and stress both situations bring?
•Could I cope physically, mentally, emotionally and finacially in this situation and after he passes?
•Do I have the support network to deal with this?
•Will be pregnant/ having a newborn impede or inhance the quality my partner and I jave left together.
If I had any doubts to these questions I would probably terminate and spend my time with my partner and focusing on him. I really feel for you having to go through this and I honestly couldnt imagine what it must feel like.
Well said.....I agree with all the above points too, I don’t think I would bring a baby into this situation. Sending light and love to you IM xxxx
This is so hard and my heart goes out to you xx I personally believe all babies are a gift. Babies have a way of bringing a lot of joy and positivity. You have had four already, so have a very good idea of what it is like to go through pregnancy and what that first year looks like. Your partner will likely need increasing amounts of support if he does have MND. Not just emotional, but physical as well as his function declines. There is no easy answer. Thinking of you and your partner as you navigate this xx
It's a tough decision and I understand your dilemma.
I lost my other half and I wish I could have had another baby with him before he left us.
It may have made things more difficult. But I would love to have another part of him since he can't be here