I am not very well and have to have a serious operation. I may not make it through or may pass away shortly after. I am prepared for this as is my partner. We have a small child.
If something does happen to me my best friend has stood up and said my partner and my child can move in with her family so he isn’t alone and can have support raising our child if need be (she has her own family who we are very close with)
Our families are saying we are being selfish by taking our friend up on the offer. For my partner to move in with his family would mean a move across the country away from his work and his friends here he doesn’t really get along with his family
My mum is here and is happy to support us but would like him to move in with her if anything happens.
I’m already so stressed and have no idea what to do. I know my partner would rather live with our friends at first but I don’t know how to make everyone see that’s it’s his choice what he does if something happens. What should I do :(
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Why does he need to move in with anyone? If he was a woman with a young child he would continue to live on his own.
I think everyone needs to back off and see how he goes living on his own.
Because his work means he can go away for 2-6 weeks at a time and wouldn’t have. Anyone to look after our child
Do you think maybe he may need to get a job where he isn’t away so much, so he can be around more for your child? He should also be entitled to some Centrelink benefits as a single dad that could top up his income, maybe look into that? I’m a single mum and as much as I would like FIFO positions, I know it isn’t an option while my child is young unfortunately. I pray for a miracle and that you will be around to see your child grow up, just know that whatever living situation he ends up in, everything will turn out okay,life has a way of doing that. Sending you light and love at this time ❤️
He is in the defence force so he doesn’t get a choice when he goes away to work
I’m sure under the eventuating circumstances he could get a discharge? I just think your child will need their dad, being their sole parent he’s going to play role of both mum and dad. A lot of us do it by the way and our kids turn out wonderful, don’t worry about that.
Yer I wasn’t worried bout that I know he will do an outstanding job of raising our child.
Oh that is horrible for you mostly and then the rest ! I am shocked at the responses here !! I do hope you get well and there is light at the end and you will not have to think about the future when your not here
Who Cares what anyone else thinks if your partner and friends are willing to do this go with it ! .. they love you all enough to offer and that is not an offer made lightly ! He does not get along with family so allow him do what he may need to do to get his head right ! Screw what anyone thinks
I really hope your recover well and this will all be a funny take in future x good luck and milk every moment with your beautiful man and baby in the meantime . Do not waste a minute on what is right or not he will work it out x
That must be so scary for you, I hate the thought of where my kids would end up if I died. If you were to pass could he quit work and stay with your child for a while, as in a few years? Your child will really need him to be there not leaving for weeks at a time. I'm sorry if it sounds horrible but I really think its a bad idea for him to move in with anyone, your child will feel as though you are being replaced, give them time to grieve without added change and confusion.
I don’t think my child would feel replaced
She is not even 1 yet and my
Best friend has been like a second Mum to her every time I’m sick and have been since before I gave birth to her my friend has taken her, changed her feed her loved her as her own :(