i would like to hear from mums who have moved away from exes with the children. I'm trying to move forward and plan a future for myself and kids however the only places I can afford are a few hours away. I'm caught between finding my feet, a future and making sure my children still see their father enough. He's a good dad and loves his kids and i know if i move away it will crush him. I can't afford to live on my own where we are anymore and I can't stay with my parents forever (where the kids and i are now). Has anyone moved a few hours away and made it work?
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If he is a good dad I wouldn’t move more than an hour away. If he wants to be involved and would be truly hurt by a move away then chances are your child would be hurt by it too... wish you all the best.
A few hours away is fine. Find your feet first, which means a home. Of course you would take one closer but you need to take what you can get first.
Be very careful, if you move too far away your ex can make you move back if you don't have his permission. A judge can even rule in his favour and give him custody of the kids to stop them from needing to move and up rooting them from where they are happy. I can't say it will happen but I have seen it happen. There's a maximum distance you can move and I think it's an hour or 100km radius. You can check these facts out by getting some legal help to ensure you are doing the right thing.
Thanks, that's good to know! I would definitely be discussing any move with him prior to going. I'm just trying to figure out myself first what is the best move next. I just feel so stuck and uncertain about everything right now :(