A little advice please .
Both my kids (9yr girl @6yrboy) have decided on their own that they want to give their uncle the Father's Day cards and presents that they made at school .
Their father is in the picture ,he calls 2-3 times a week for about 2-3 mins and see the kids 4-5 times a year for a two night weekend .
Should I go with their wanting to celebrate the great relationship that they have with their uncle or make them send the gifts to their father .
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Does it say dad on it? Either let them decide and still buy or make a pressie for dad as well, or give that one to dad and buy/make another for uncle. I think its lovely they love their uncle and important to show it, but they dont have to choose they can thank both and appreciate both (differently).
He is still in the picture. My kids have less contact with their Dad and it's still the same, Dad is Dad nobody is going to take that place no matter how bad it gets so I believe they should send them to Dad, but they can always include the uncle and get him a card too. It doesn't have to be one or the other.
Get them to send stuff to both.
Give the hand made with love gifts to uncle and buy something to send to the father. If he calls 2 to 3 times a week, Im going to assume he lives faraway but obviously cares a lot about them to keep that up, not an out of sight out of mind type of father. You need to encourage that relationship, if he didn’t give a crap I wouldnt say that. You mention how brief the calls are, but talking that often and with kids their age, it’s very hard.