Does anyone else have a selfish lover in the bedroom? Anytime my partner and i have it off he always finishes 1st. always!
Gets it anyway he wants (even if it does nothing for me) and then when he is satisfied rolls over and goes to sleep or asks for a massage but if i ask for a massage he says he is too tired and falling asleep. Really annoys me! I have told him he is selfish in that way and says he doesn't know what im talking about š
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Have you considered introducing some toys into foreplay? So he uses it on your first and then he can finish with sex or whatever else?
Iād full blown stop having sex with him until he can satisfy you!
My husband always makes sure I finish first. Massages are always beforehand - who has the energy after?! We use a lot of toys too (wevibe pivot is my favourite at the moment). Honestly, start expecting more from him!
What an ass. This kind of behaviour in a guy means he never makes it to partner status in my life.
It's a point of pride with my husband that he gets me off first, and will not finish until he does. On the rare occasion where he does go first, he makes sure he finishes me after.
I'd straight out tell him, until he picks up his game and cares whether u orgasm or not, I wouldn't be doing a thing with him. Sex is supposed to be fun for the couple. It's not the middle ages anymore where sex is all about his pleasure and no one else's.
I couldn't have formed an emotional attachment with someone who didnt satisfy me in the bedroom, because for me, sex is very important in a relationship. Some ppl will argue with me on that, but that's their problem, not mine.
Only you can tell him what you want and how you want it.
Not having sex is only going to make things worse when you do have sex, because heās going to āblow his loadā really quickly and youāll be even more unsatisfied.
Hereās how I would tackle this problem - start by having sex every day. The more often a man comes, the longer it starts taking for him to come. So, sex every day until he is taking longer. As soon as that happens, take control. Get him in the position that works best for you (Doggy style head down will get his knob on your g-spot 99.9% of the time). If you need clitoral stimulation, suggest some oral for a while or try straddling him with him sitting up so you control the pressure on your clitoris from his shaft.
Be pro-active in making your sex life how you want it to be. When he sees how much nicer it is for him when you climax he will try harder to make it that good every time.
No, I donāt usually talk like this, Iām usually quite shy and most people wouldnāt even know I know this stuff š.
My partner always makes sure he takes care of me first. Always has and always will. Sometimes with toys sometimes just us. 18yrs and going strong. Do not put up with that. Just tell him no sexy time if he canāt be bothered to give you a happy ending. Donāt let him dictate your sex life. Youāre just setting up your relationship to fail.
Do yourself a right royal favour and google: Narcissisitc Personality Disorder and if he ticks the boxes, pack your bags up, don't say a word to him ( because he'll promise the earth and won't deliver ) and RUN.....
At least you get sex hun I would be lucky to get it 3 to 4 monthly sometimes not at all
I get excuses from him I'm tired my back hurts so I be happy having something than nothing