So I just found out I’m pregnant, I am so lost at what to do. I always said I didn’t want anymore as I don’t think I could do it, 3 is hard enough to then add a newborn to the mix I just can’t ammagin. Plus I got rid of all of my baby stuff, would have to move to a bigger house get a bigger car. A lot of changes!! But I’m saying that I don’t know if I could go and get of it. After having children and seeing them how they are and how beautiful they are I don’t no if I could live with myself after do that.
I just don’t no. I hate that I’ve put myself in this position. Would love to know anyone experiences from going from 3 to 4
Pregnant with 4th child
Pregnant with 4th child
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Bigger house can wait and isn't essential if you can't afford it. Plenty of kids share rooms. Bigger car will be required. As for going from 3 to 4, the logistics of cars etc is tricky, but otherwise, I think you will find a way to make it work. Don't abort if you know in your heart it's the wrong decision for you xx
Hey lovely! Literally just found out 3 weeks ago that I was pregnant with our 4th aswell!
Omg was a huge shock and completely not planned. After a week or so of balling my eyes out because I didnt want this baby but I couldnt bring myself to have an abortion we spoke and just accepted that this baby is meant to be. We are taking each day as it comes. Can be hard coz all I'm thinking about is money stresses and the rest. I have no baby stuff either. Luckily we already have 1 big car. Their will be an 11 year age gap between the eldest and this baby and a 5 year age gap between my youngest and bubs which I dont like. Just letting you know your not alone! Will be following your post for advice as well. Good luck xx
Just take a deep breath, you don’t have to decide today. If you want bubs, you can make it work in your current accommodation, bubs will be in your room for a while. Trade in current car to get a people mover, may not be that much. Good luck ❤️
Hate to be the spelling police but it's imagine! With an I, that's why spell check did not come the rescue 😂.
Geez. Sooooo many posts on here are riddled with grammatical issues showing very low literacy levels and you pick on someone misspelling one word?
Calm down, I wasn't trying to be a bitch just helpful because I can see she has struggled to spell it, she spelt it as it sounds. I have written another answer in response to her problem, I didn't come here just to be a nazi.
I have gone from 3 to 4 and it is hard for sure but honestly not that much harder than 3. You're already doing everything as far as having children is concerned, there's just more of it. The other thing is needing a bigger house and car. When they're older it's more food and more expensive trying to go somewhere like the movies and stuff, but there's also plenty of free or cheap stuff to do everywhere. Good luck, you will be fine.
I havent read the replies but im guessing mine will go against most here.
I wanted our 4th bub so badly, he was very planned. The whole pregnancy i was so excited and then he was born, he was such a hard bubba and tested everything i knew as a mum. He never slept, he cried 21 hours a day, i paced the floor for all those hours. My relationship with their dad struggled, 4 kids has been so hard! I never expected 1 extra child could make that much difference, I always have had my kids and extras. Ive always been told i was a natural mum. I have happy, healthy, well behaved kids that excell at school. I very easily have managed raising my kids. The older 2 as a single mum for a big part of their lives. I loved craft and playgroup, baking and playing. I loved giving them new experiences, i just loved being a mum. After having my youngest it all changed, i dont enjoy those things as much anymore, i dont have time for those things, everything cost so much more, house, car, holidays you need an extra room, even take away or a day out feels like it is so much more now.
I love my baby to bits and couldnt imagine life without him now, but honestly 4 kids has been chaos and if i had my time again would i have maybe only had three kids... quite possibly!
I have 3 kids..found out i was pregnant and chose to abort.
I do not regret my decision, because of all the reasons you stated above like bigger house, car, the time off work i would have needed etc. It just wasn't financially viable for us, along with the fact that i just didnt want to start all over with a newborn when my kids were all school aged.
As they say 'if you cant afford them, dont have them' and that was my thinking as my older children would have had to go without as we would have gone to a single income plus feeding/clothing another child, plus the expense of a bigger house and car. I just couldnt see it working unfortunately.
Good luck in your decision
If abortion is your choice, I will not think any less of you.
I think 4 children will be different for everyone, i cant really give advice on that but I can tell you my experiance with abortion, i had an abortion 8 years ago, i am still not over it to this day, i have had days where i am crying in my husbands arms and days where its just there, in my heart, but it never leaves me. I was not 100% on my decision but was a single mum at the time and let other people influence my decision. Do what you can live with, because some days i feel i could not live with myself if my other children didnt need me.