My ex and I seperated in July. We have remained on good terms and are coparenting really well. He had asked me to accompany him to a charity ball his work sponsors (and he knows it’s something close to my heart). I have said yes but the thought of it is making me sick. I’m not friends with any of his colleagues although they are polite I find it difficult to converse with them. Especially now as only some know we have separated and I imagine those that do know will find it odd that I am attending. I really feel uncomfortable about it and I know he is going to be really angry with me for wanting to pull out.
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I would go. This is such a wonderful step for co-parenting! Is there any chance of rekindling? Maybe he would like that?
Dont worry about other people or what they 'may or may not' think.
Its a ball for charity and you get along well with your ex.
The truth is most people dont concern themselves too much with other peoples business as they usually have enough going on in their own lives!
Go and enjoy the night
If you dont want to Go, dont. Youre separated, doing these things is not necessary.
However, if the only reason is worry about his colleagues then thats not worth the worry. People always like to see married people getting on rather than warring. The finer details are no ones business.
Why would he be so angry at you canceling? Did the ticket cost money? Repay it and anything else is just part of breaking up unfortunately, as long as you let him know as soon as you can and graciously, his anger is not your problem.
I would go. Find other people to talk to!
I think id give a massive fist pump and it would be kick arse to see two seperated people getting along like that. Good for your kids to witness or know about as they grow up, knowing that two people can still get along in such a way even with everything else that’s obviously going on.
But if you simply can’t go without making yourself sick with worry, then don’t. Just do the right thing and be honest and tell him in good time.
If it’s something you can put aside for the one night, do it, and do it with a huge chip on your shoulder because it certainly isn’t “odd”, it’s empowering.
If you don't want to go, don't go. Simple.
You aren't responsible for how other people react either.
If you go, go for you. Not for him.
It shows strong coparenting if you choose to go. But it doesn't mean you're not doing it well if you don't go.