Hi Mums, my son is just about to start school. Hubby and I have been trying for a second child for some time with no success ( I’ve had some fertility issues). What I want to ask is for those who have just one child do you regret it?? How do you move forward and finally say ok it’s just not going to happen for us?? I find I’m struggling the most with guilt.
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My son is grade 1.he has a best mate that is like a brother to him. Relax. He will make his own social network and at home he has 2 loving parents xo
I was like you. Felt nothing but absolute guilt that I was the reason I couldn't give my 10 year old son a sibling. (Let me just start with the fact I was on the pill when I first fell pregnant, so I shouldn't have been pregnant in the first place. Then when we tried for number 2, nothing was working. We got to IVF stage and using donor sperm, but got told both gave us 5% chance of falling pregnant again....and both didn't work.) When I came to the decision that it would just be the one for us, everything changed. The guilt was gone. I wasn't stressing about it. I relaxed and happy with my decision. I'd even thrown out or sold everything (and I mean EVERYTHING) that I had been saving for baby number 2.
Then I fell pregnant naturally. I have an 11 year age gap (yes same father too) and I wouldn't change it for the world. My kids (I only have 2) have THE BEST relationship I have ever seen between siblings.
Shit like this happens to a lot of women. Stop putting too much pressure on yourself as that can cause further problems. Chin up, keep practising for bub number 2 and you never know. Miracles happen. xx
I think it’s fine 1 or 10 it’s a personal thing. I have 3. I will say that my grown kids have a few only child friends and you can tell in some things they do or don’t do. Nothing drastic.
And I grew up with a huge gap so almost like an only child except I longed for my siblings company who were off doing grown up stuff. Helps if both parents are involved.