I'm at a complete loss. I don't have a life I feel like a hermit.
I've been a full time single mum to my 3 year since I was 13 weeks pregnant.
I haven't worked for 5 years.
I'm at the point now I'm at home every day on my PJs I've just given up. I don't have much motivation to take my daughter to places. She's a very full on little one (behavioral issues, seeing specialist) so it's hard. I can't enjoy playing with her. I just want to sit and watch Netflix all day. I'm comfortable doing that.
I've tried to apply for tafe but I can't get her into care on the days I'm trying but it's not looking good.
I'm broke. I live with my mum now. I moved back home in November.
I have no friends since being away for 3 years. They all moved on. Tried to gain contact but get no where. One girl who was talking weddings with me after getting engaged hair make up dresses it was like i was a bridesmaid now I'm not even invited to tje wedding! And I haven't got a clue. I sussed it out and she said we are all okay. I'm lonely. So lonely. I'm lost at what to do.
To top it all off my daughter's "dad" who has never meet her or paid me a cent has told the navy she's his child. I got a letter saying his being deployed and offering us support. His getting benefits for being away from her!!
I'm stuck on this too. I don't want him in our life the avo has run out but his an awful person. I'm in two mind's to take the navys offer for support including child care so I can go to tafe. Councling a whole lot of stuff. I mean his drawing and getting money so why can't I play his games. But that's wrong too. Or do I call and say I don't understand this letter we havnt seen this man for almost 4 years. Then they will try and cut his pay but then he will try and possibly prove she's his. She has my name and his not on the birth certificate.
How do I get out of this rut. I'm 25 and just feel like my life is over. Like I'm just going to be that single mother living with hwr mum and siblings in her PJs all day. I'm loosing weight cause I can't eat. (I've always suffered anorexia on and off) and it's not going away this time. Since October I've gone from a size 14 to a size 8.
I just want to be okay. To have friends I can talk to. To go out and have fun. To study and not be so brain dead. To earn money to have a life and a life I can provide for my daughter.
Any advice. I'm desperate.
Stuck with life.
Stuck with life.
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You're welcome to add me on Facebook. I'm always happy to listen and have a chat. Life's hard when you get stuck in a rut and feel like you're nothing more than a mum - my goal this year is to reclaim me a little bit
Ima single mum, if I don’t work, I turn into a slug 😂😂😂, some people are just like that. Lack motivation, can’t be bothered going anywhere etcbut if I’m working, I make the most of my time off and do stuff with kids. I know, it’s strange! I haven’t been off work long, like months, can’t imagine years. Honestly, get a job, anything that gets you out of the house, you will have adults to converse with and at the end of the work day, you will probably be glad to have time away from people 😂 and not long so much for friendships. There’s nothing wrong with you, you are just in a very bad rut and I would be exactly the same in your position ❤️ You just need someone to give you a go, give you a start. Even volunteering can help with your resume, baby steps, make some changes, as hard as it is, I know.