so, having a discussion with a friend about her having another baby. She thinks it is totally fine to stop taking the pill when she is ready to have another Bub and not tell her husband (he doesn’t want anymore) as she thinks he will eventually “get over it”. I think it’s wrong and not fair in him.
Am I a prude for not really thinking this is okay and will most likely back fire on her if or when he finds out that he has been tricked.
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It is very wrong of her to do that!
You aren’t a prude. For me this is so very wrong, dishonest and it sounds like your friend doesn’t respect her partner at all.
Accidentally falling pregnant is very different to deliberately falling pregnant without consent.
I think it’s none of your business. You don’t have to agree with everything she does and you can even tell her you disagree but ultimately not your marriage not your problem
IMO that's absolutely f**ked up and completely unfair. If my husband sabotaged our contraception to "accidentally" get me pregnant I would leave him, and if this happened to any male friend of mine I would be livid on his behalf. It is such a breach of trust in the relationship.
Depending on whether or not you're willing to lose a friend over this, I would tell her exactly what you think of this and that she should realise single parenthood will be the worst case scenario.
I want a baby desperately but would never ever trick my partner!!! I am 33 and nearing the end of my fertility window, but I would never trick him. But he is so paranoid, so guess who hasn’t had sex in over 2 years (apparently I have to wait until my fertility wears off as I can’t use any medical contraception) 😢 So I am ready to walk. Anyways, the point is... lies and no compromises ruin relationships!!!!
Wow that’s full on! If he’s that sure he’s not having more then why wouldn’t he just have a vasectomy? I hate when the contraception responsibility seems to always fall on the woman
Sorry not sorry but he's an ass. Seems like he's making excuses not to have sex because usually men will still want to have sex even if they are ultra paranoid and careful. I would sit him down and talk with him. It's not fair for him to withhold sex for that reason.
Lucky it’s their relationship so it’s between them