Do you ever just look at your life and regret where it has taken you.
I don’t think I am actually asking anything just wondering if I am only person feels this way. I have three children two of whom have autism one a lot worse than the other. I have lost all my friends and we struggle with money. I have no one in my life apart from my children and partner . Having to be home all the time with the kids means I have lost all my friends. I lost some friends just because my kids fell on the spectrum. I am just looking at my life wondering where it feels like it went wrong. I spend my days yelling at my kids for not doing as they are told. I am just feeling over it all at the Moment and even though I have a partner he just doesn’t do the kids routines and it causes problems for everyone. I can not even go to the toilet on my own. Just wondering if I get a break at all because I feel like I am starting to fall apart.
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Mama!! Take some time out!!
Are they school aged? Can you manage a family member to have them so you can have some time to regroup? Alone time is so important and you’d be surprised how much it would help. Don’t feel guilty for asking for help when you need it. Even if it is an just hour so you can go home and shit in peace. Do it for you, and for your family.
Have you tried any mums groups in your local area? I lost a lot of friends once I had children but that’s because we all took very different paths. I still get upset about it but I try and remind myself that these things happened for a reason and our interests are too far from each other’s, that catching up would be pointless now. There is also a great app called “mush”.. it’s kind of like tinder but it’s aimed at connecting mums with similar like-minded mums in your area. Give that a whirl.
I don’t think life goes “wrong” but I think we get complacent and forget that life is a constant battle of making difficult or uncomfortable choices in order to grow or better ourselves.
Yes it's hard work and a fine balance. I think if you have a stable place to live, a fair support network, head above water financially and health then it's ok, enjoyable, you go through the hard times and enjoy what you have.
When it tips the other way though, the struggle gets real, fast. Break things down into smaller issues And goals and put self care at the top of the list.
Yes I feel so lost in my life too hugs x
Yep. If I could go back in time I wouldn’t have kids. You’re not alone Mumma!
Yeh I totally hate my life some days...in 3.5 years I have lost both my mum due to heart condition then my dad to bowel cancer and also have had my 2 girls in between. I love them and my husband but hate that my parents are here I feel soo lonely sometimes 😞 I also hate that I can’t find work that suits hrs for me looking after my own children and that we have no money to do things...and have to borrow money!
Some days I wish I could run away
I’ve been where you are, in the trenches, wishing the years would speed up, no friends, little help, feeling along. But now I look back and wish I could have some time back, mine have grown now. It’s only a season, this too shall pass.