No judgement please but I have a 6.5 year old who is good at school but when is home doesn't listen to parents at all. I have tried time outs and stuff like that but I'm starting to get really frustrated with her! I don't know what I am doing wrong with her I love her but she is making me so mad I don't know what to do!
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Is it all the time? It could be over excitement especially if she's been good at school all day.
I've found it's a developmental stage where they go more deeply into their own world, their imagination and pretending and storytelling... it's hard to get them out of their world and into yours. Again, they try really hard at school and then can't do it at home as well.
There are techniques to get her from her world to yours and ready to listen. Google transitions or instructions.
Also give her a good chat with your fill attention and a good free play to help her get it all out and be more able to spend time concentrating in adult world.
They ALWAYS do this. Put on a front for others then turn into demons for you... I think they are naughty at home with the parent who has most contact with them. They know you will love them unconditionally and are their safe person.
With every adult, and their relationship, you'll notice a change in behaviour. Angels vs. Demons. They all do it and it is EXTREMELY frustrating.
What's important is for you to know is they all do it. It does settle down around 2nd grade because they become little show offs and start getting hurt. (My son seemed to run into walls or catch football's with his head or my favorite "dad told me not to put my hands out to fall because of break my wrist..." with his two front teeth knocked out.)
Each phase is definitely a mystery of full on "just when you thought you had it down pact..." a new phase comes in.
The other important thing is walk away and say that you are disappointed that we can't do nice things because of you thinking it's ok to xyz.
You need to also look after yourself. If you have a partner (I didn't. Still don't. He's 13. No quite sure how we survived.) Let him or her support you by allowing you a break. Sometimes removing yourself completely from the situation is best. I still go for walks. If you've got a dog, use him as an excuse.
It'll pass. X
Do the triple p parenting course online! You will be amazed what things you can learn to help you both!