My SIL is flying in to pick up my 6 year old son to take him back to spend time with her & his grandparents. I will then fly there 3 days later to pick him up.
I have been fine with this but now it’s 4 days out & I’m a mess! I can’t get over this feeling that something bad is going to happen like someone kidnapping him & hurting him. I look at him & start getting teary like I’ll never see him again.
My husband said he’s going to cancel the trip as he feels I’m not ready but our little boy is so very excited & I can’t break his heart like that.
I know his Aunty & grandparents will never hurt him or put him in any danger but I’m worried they won’t hold his hand & he may get excited seeing something & run off.
Am I normal?? Has anyone else felt like this?? How do I get through the 3 days st work before I fly out to pick him up??
Please help as I feel I’m going crazy.
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You are a normal mummy! Could you also fly up the same day to ease your mind?
I think it is totally normal to be anxious when someone other than ourselves is looking after our kids, throw in a plane flight and its bound to be worse. However, I think in your case you might be experiencing a bit more than the usual nerves. Remember he is going to be with people well know to you and him, and those people are experienced in raising children. As for him running off, speak to your in-laws about your concerns especially if he is a bit of a runner and also at 6 years old he should be able to understand that he isn't to run off and needs to stay with grandma and grandpa and aunty whoever. If you need to it might be worth ensuring that you can have regular check ins while he's there eg. A text every couple of hours and a phone call a couple of times a day to ease your mind but if it were me I'd definitely let him go as it might be good for both of you. If your anxiety is crippling you eg. Your aren't able to function normally I think it might be good to have a chat to someone about it.
Mate, none of us are normal (sorry, couldn't help myself)😂
Its really common to feel anxious when we entrust someone else with our kids though, combine that with extensive travel and it's no wonder you're freaking out a little bit!
Don't let your husband cancel, it will do you and your son wonders. He'll have a bloody great time and you'll get though this and next time it'll be a breeze to let your son go off on a wonderful adventure. Putting it off will only increase your anxiety!
You obviously trust his aunt/gparents, just have a chat to them about hand holding, vigilant supervision etc and also remind your son how important it is to listen, and not run off (no matter how cool something is).
It will all be fine 💜