Hi IMs, not for Facebook please.
A family member of mine lost her baby last weekend to SIDS.
We are pregnant and it’s almost time to announce it. We had organised a cute photo with our other child involved and were planning on putting it on social media where we keep in contact with most friends and family. However I’m now feeling it may be a bit tasteless to announce our pregnancy and have people excited for us for her to see.
Would you bother to do the announcement or just send a text to everyone instead?
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I would still do the announcement, you're still allowed to share your joy. It would be nice if maybe you gave these relatives a heads up before you share the Facebook post though, just so its not such a shock.
I would probably wait a month or so. If your only 12 weeks announcing at 16 won’t hurt.
You could text immediate family and friends and then social media in a polite amount of time.
I’d tell her in private first before announcing.
I would definitely give a personalised heads up first so she can process it beforehand... will still hurt but emotions may be a little less raw ❤️
How soon until you were planning? Maybe announce it a little later, give her a few extra weeks. Then tell her privately before puttinit on facebook
I think that the announcement would be quite heartless while they're in the depth of grieving given it's a family member not a distant acquaintance. Maybe tell them first. A quick phone call to check in and then let them know. Tell them that you will be telling family soon and didn't want them blind sighted. Then maybe tell your family when they aren't there so that your family and friends can react with joy without feeling they are hurting someone else in doing so. After you've done that, if you still want to do the birth announcement to let everyone in, have it custom settings so they can't see it at all. That way, the social media hype won't be in their faces. Congratulations. You are allowed to be (and should be) excited. Just think about how you would feel if you were them and be respectful of that. If this is your first child... Think of how you would feel if shortly into your marriage hubby died and you were destroyed and your sibling was gushing about her engagement. It would hurt beyond words.
Last week? Just hold off. If it’s your sister or someone you or your partner are particularly close to I would consider not doing anything on social media.
I would set it so she doesn't see and I would private message her the news in a sensitive way.
Personally I would hold off for a few more weeks. It's only a few weeks in the scheme of things and this family are in the depths of despair having just buried a child