Hi, imperfect mums!
so I’m just going to get straight to the point..
My plan is to finish year 12 and eventually get into further studies and eventually university
(I’m a teen mum and want to be a doctor/surgeon some day. I am currently studying year 12 at a young mums program.)
Would it be easier to have all my kids in 1 hit , and keep the ball rolling? I know that become a doctor can be time consuming and impossible to do with newborns/ toddlers hence why I’m considering having another’s baby soon. I already have a 1 and a half year old daughter and really want at least 1 more child in the near future... I am on Centrelink benefits and will be for a while until I can get full time work
Just looking for guidance,
Thanks in advance :)
Studying And Wanting Another Baby
Studying And Wanting Another Baby
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Focus on your studies. Medical school is full on. Much harder than year 12. Studying with one child is going to be difficult, studying with multiple children (of any age) will be impossible. Kids don’t get that much easier as they age, they always need time.
My sister and her husband are doctors. It was a huge sacrifice for both of them. Medical studies was way more than a full time job (uni 9-5, everyday) and then home to study for every single night and then all weekend. There are zero allowances made in med school for personal circumstances.
You are far better off getting your studies out of the way first, then having another child.
There were a handful of mothers in my sisters year and they all dropped out.
Why not paramedicine? It is a 4 year degree, 3 years of it is on the job and paid. You can't start until 21 anyway so if you wanted to add to your family you could have a few years at home with them. I was a young Mum too, you sound amazing, well done.
I guess it depends on what kind of age gap you are wanting. And how supportive your partner is.
I was 14, and my youngest sibling was 6, when my mum started studying medicine to eventually become a GP. We live in a rural area and mum moved 6 hours away to studying. It was an intense 8 years (6 yrs medicine then an extra 2 years away from home as an intern & resident) for the whole family. My mum was a superstar and was also working as a registered nurse.
I think get your babies out of the way. It's going to be difficult, but medicine and studying is difficult at the best of times.
I say good luck to you and stick at it...you'll rock it!
I don't know, but I would think it's better to have them all in one hit, as I'm really looking forward to being done with the baby stage and moving on with life.
However, I guess doing it young, there's a higher chance.youll meet someone and want more kids with them later and do it again as a round two, as I've met quite a few mums.lately who have an 18/20 year old and young babies.
Kids require more and more of your time as they get older. Studying medicine is no simple feat. I think you understand the sacrifice that you need to make but do you understand the sacrifice your children will make as you undertake such a stressful endeavour? How much of their childhood are you willing to miss? You honestly don’t get it back!
I don’t want to deter you but I do want you to consider that the long road you map for yourself is the same road your children take.. can you manage it all? If I were you I’d concentrate on the one you have. Study hard plus give them the best of you when you can and once you have achieved your goals think about more children then.
Honestly I wouldn't even consider more babies yet (I speak as a teen mum myself). I had mine close together, 3 under 3 by the time I was 21 because I has so many people telling is easier to get it all out of the way. There is no way I could have studied (especially something in the medical field) and parented a baby and a toddler.
You have such a long time to have more children. Parenthood is a juggle regardless but what do you think will be easier, juggling a then teenager and a new born with a full medical degree (and the wage that comes with) or juggling 2 babies, uni/ assignments and doing that on less than generous centrelink benefits?
Will get slammed for it, but here goes...
It's one thing to have a pregnancy happen and end up centrelink. It's another thing entirely to intentionally plan to bring children into this world, knowing full well u are unable to independently support them. Centrelink is not a career choice. It's there for those who find themselves in a situation where they can't support themselves and their children. Don't have more children when u know that the tax payer is footing the bill because u can't support them yourself. Finish your studies. Get a career going, or a job, and then plan more children when u can afford to
Ignorant comment, thousands of women of all ages receive benefits while their children are young. If she didn't have children and already studying at Uni then she would be on benefits. Then work for however long if at all then bang, back on benefits again to have babies. Op is wanting to study while having her children young which means she will actually be less of a burden on the poor tax payer, especially when she's aiming for a high paying career herself and no doubt going to be paying more than her fair share of taxes in the future.
study, study & more study. I'm 35 and deferred my uni degree to have my second baby. One child is manageable. Two is stressful. I'm in my last trimester now but it's been extremely hard.
I admire you for having a clear goal. You're still so young, finish your studies then have a baby. I wish I had of started/finished my degree before having kids. It is TOUGH