Hi all, just wanting I guess some opinions. I am a nearly 41 year old woman who just found out today at 7 weeks pregnant that my baby no longer has a heartbeat. I am shattered, I just want my baby back.This is my third miscarriage in the last three years. One in 2016 and one at the start of last year. I am lucky enough to have four beautiful children already from my previous marriage. My partner is 45 and doesn't have any kids but feels like he is getting to old. I would really like to give it one more shot. Am I being selfish by wanting another child at this age and putting us both through these very heartbreaking and emotional situations?
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You’re completely in your right mind to want more children with your (new) partner. And it’s your right and choice to choose when to try/when to stop. No one can tell you guys what’s right and wrong for your paths.
It’s not selfish if it’s what you both really want, but I guess there also comes a time when you really need to sit down with him and work out a plan of attack and possibly putting a time frame on things if it wasn’t to happen.
I would see a doctor and see if there is anything you can do to help youself keep a baby. And as long as you will love the baby (obviously you will be) and can provide for it I don't think your selfish.
Not selfish at all- I’m about to turn 40 and still want a brother or sister for my little boy- it won’t happen as I’m now separated- you have a chance - go for it - if you feel it’s right for you guys. Miscarriage are hard though - I did IVF for six years and took its toll on our relationship. Only you know your limits
Nope go for it, but try baby aspirin next time, it’s the only reason I have a nephew after 2 mc and a good child on the way after 5 mc. Ask your dr and go for gold