I just read three posts in a row from mothers dealing with separation, custody battles and missing their kids when they’re at their father’s house. Having gotten out of a relationship with a man child who didn’t want kids 1.5 years ago I’ve had absolutely no inclination to date. I just cannot be bothered and don’t want to be disappointed again. I’m 31 and considering having a baby alone using a sperm donor. I know it would be fucking hard, but it just seems like it would be easier in terms of not having to worry about when the relationship inevitably breaks down and needing to co-parent. Nope. (You might be able to tell I’m a bit jaded at this point). I have a good job and support network around me.
I’d love to hear from women who’ve done this. What did you consider beforehand, how did you cope, if you could go back in time would you do it all over again? Do you regret it or are you so happy you took charge of your own fertility?
Happy to hear differing opinions as long as they’re respectful.
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Before you do it, go and read up on how adults who were sperm donors feel about it.
As a single mum myself, I don’t see an issue, but after reading up on the effect on the babies/adults it’s not as rosy as we like to think.
Not me sorry but a friend did it. She seems happy being a single Mum and her son is 8 now. I totally get where your coming from being jaded. I am a single Mum, in allot of ways it would be easier not having a ex husband and Dad of the kids to deal with.
I personally would do it. I have an ex to my 2 children, And he is a pain in the arse to be honest. If you have a steady job and support I would say go for it.
Do what makes you happy. I have met women who have sperm donor children and while super hard they are happy they don’t have the same single mother issues with a “father”. Some women want to be mothers and not partners there is nothing wrong with it. As for the children do you want to risk not having children at all because they “may” have issues that some have wanting a daddy figure?