Ladies, I’m needing advice/your personal experiences please.
Hubby and I have 2 children aged 4 and 2, we always said we’d have at least 2 children and no more than 3.
My hubby is saying he is ‘done’, but then he’ll turn around and tell people he’d have 4 if raising kids wasn’t so expensive. My heart is yearning for 1 more, but my head is saying no (for the financial reasons and a few other health reasons on my part). I’ve been ‘joking’ around with him about falling pregnant again and he just laughs at me, he said if it happened he’d be happy, so from what I understand he doesn’t want it to be ‘planned’ as such. But when we have sex he pulls out...
I really don’t know what to do! If he was to turn around tomorrow and tell me he wanted another baby I’d still be very much on the fence...
How did you decide whether or not to have the 3rd baby? The feeling that I’ll never pee on another pregnancy test, be pregnant, give birth again or have a newborn again saddens me. I’m torn!!!
Baby #3 - to have or not to have?
Baby #3 - to have or not to have?
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After my first pregnancy I got clucky and new we needed a second soon after. And this time, it's taken until now (my youngest is 3) to not be terrified of the idea. And it's only now that we are coming around to the idea and planning of when... maybe give it some more time. Neither of you need to make up your minds right now. You can both sit of the fence longer. Sounds like you are both on the same page at the moment, for different reasons which is gpod
While the thought is sad. Where would it end? It’s still going to be just as sad after a 3rd.
I’m absolutely sure I don’t want a third as I have a weird quirk with numbers, I have a health condition that makes it riskier and 40 is closing in.
Under different circumstances I’d love 4. But I’m content with my reasoning. Your lasts are still sad though.
I'm not sad about it and my kids are older. You do have more time. a 2 year gap, 3 4 or 5 is still a shared childhood. Larger gap is still a family and beautiful in the things that offers.
I'm just not sad at all about those baby things, so I think it does end somewhere and you're not there yet.
I had 8 !!! Its never ever gonna be financially doable . But you manage . Good luck!
I think you should wait until you can frt a straight answer out if your partner.
We have just had our third. My husband was happy at 2 but I yearned for a 3rd. Financially it’s tough - a lot tougher than 2 which I wasn’t expecting but we just do things differently now such as more free activities or go out for dinner on kids eat free nights etc. I wouldn’t change it for the world though as the hole she has filled has been worth it. A part of me would still love more (I don’t think that feeling will ever go away) but I feel content now whereas before I didn’t.
I have 3 children. A 4yo, 3yo & 2yo. My eldest was just over 2.5years when I had my youngest (and there was a 12mo too).
It was tough. But I wouldn’t have it any other way. Mind you ours weren’t planned, but I now feel “complete” - does that make sense?
It depends on who you ask, but I felt 3 was a huge difference to 2. Outnumbered, lots more expensive (we had 3 in nappies etc).
I think all that doesn’t matter though. You adapt, and then you don’t know any different.
Good luck with what you decide :)
By falling pregnant the 3rd time is how.
I wasn’t sure, rhythm was working for years until I lost weight. Bam number 3 with a 6 and 9 year gap. It was hard, I was older, other kids already in school and now 16 years later I’d do it all again. Money is not everything.