Hi, I'm in a new relationship and my partner really loves the woman being on top. I don't have a lot of experience being on top and zero confidence.
Any tips on how I can learn to be on top? How to move, what to do, and gain confidence, so I can please my man as much as he pleases me. (He focuses on me sooooo much, I want to return the favour.)
I'm not very good at being spontaneous or randomly trying new things. I think doing research, watching how to videos, something, will help me know what I can try. Otherwise I have zero clue where to even start.
TIA xx
How can i please my man sexually
How can i please my man sexually
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I dint particularly like being on top but I find it's so much easier to move if he is sitting, and I sit on top. So I can either be on my knees or the squat. Helps with the bed head behind him to hold on to, or the couch.
I also don't mind leaning back on my hands, legs more up under his arm pits and using my arms to move up and down.
I think any guys digs you grabbing his arms and holding him down, or even batter still hand cuff to the bed
Get him to sit up with legs apart. Sit on his lap legs folded behind you with your back to him. Guide his hands to where you like to be touched. It is quite deep penetration. I think it's called reverse cowgirl. Good luck 👍
Having him in a sitting position definitely helps, either up against the bedhead or on the couch. It’s my personal favourite
Good for you! I used to love being on top and in fact reverse cowgirl is the only way I'll orgasm through sex alone. Smashed my knees at work a few years back so now it's incredibly painful :( Even as a bigger woman being on top isn't difficult, climb on and move. Start slowly, rock back and forth gently, slide up and down, lie on your elbows so you're parallel above him and bounce your hips up and down, as you get into it you'll pick up pace and add a bit of a grind. I used to drive my man nuts by hovering above him and wiggling my ass before he'd even penetrated.
I came to the website to post anonymously 😂 I had zero confidence being on top as well, but it was something my husband really wanted as he was doing all the work in the bedroom. One night we had spontaneous sex in the lounge room and I climbed on top while he was sitting. It actually turned out to be incredible, here's why:
- Having him sitting helped with leverage, I could grip the back of the couch and he could guide my movements by holding my hips.
- There was obviously penetration, but really intense movements also allowed me to stimulate my clitoris on his body at the same time. Him sitting up also allowed him to lick and suck on my nipples. All three of these combined gave me an INTENSE orgasm.
We now do this in the bedroom, he'll either sit up and I'll grip the headboard, or he'll lie down and I will bring my body down with my hands either side of his head, or I will bring my body all the way down and wrap my arms around his neck with my knees either side, guiding my lower body in an intense up and down rhythm which creates penetration, clitoris stimulation, and nipple stimulation. This creates a trifecta for the most intense orgasm I've ever head, something that couldn't happen with him on top.
Try it, you'll love it!
Have a look at some woman on top porn. That always helps me to see how they position themselves..I love giving my partner blow jobs. I hold the base of his penis with one hand, then put my mouth on top, twisting my hand as I move up and down, sucking and licking the ridge of the head of his penis while his dick is in my mouth. It sounds hard in writing but it will give you the confidence to pleasure him. Tell him that you want to try something new, and give it a go. My husband has never been able to finish during a blow job until I did this, but this drives him wild!
I personally hate being on top and do it maybe 20% of the time because i’m So unfit and it’s exhausting.i watched porn to help me with ideas