Long story short. Im pregnant the father already has a daughter an a son . He has his son fulltime but has never met or known his daughter, he pays child support for her but always said to me cause he doesn't work he pays minimum but the catch is he owns a business an I've seen the money he earns! But his made himself the director not owner or somthing along them lines an doesn't pay himself a wage just all money goes into business account an he uses that an lives off that. He also claims single parent for his son.
So my question is .. is it worth me getting the child support when he only pays $14 weekly for his daughter. Like to me there's no point. .FYI his left me cause I'm pregnant an I'm happy for him to be apart of child's life, his chosen not to be.
just unsure about child support.
I already have a son an don't get child support off his dad but we co parent extremely well an are 50/50.
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Make him pay. Your child has a right to be supported by both parents. He might not pay much for now, but in the future that might change. Go child support collect.
That $14 could add up to a nice little saving account for your child over time.
This is what a lot of people do to get out of child support! Makes me sick. So he just picks and chooses which children he will raise? Complete tosser. If you don't want child support then don't put him on the birth certificate, once he's on there he has to pay and you have to potentially deal with him in the future. For the sake of the other daughter dob him in to the tax man if you know he has been using any of that business money for himself like holidays or cars. Also dob him into Centrelink because I'm pretty sure they look at business income differently and will come up with their own amount for income, basically forcing him to pay himself a wage. Centrelink cares when they are getting ripped off but not anyone else.
OK, so not only would I hit him up for that $14 purely out of spite for being a pig, I'd also be dobbing his ass in to CSA and centrelink for fraud (because that's exactly what he's doing rn). It makes me sick!
People who rort the system like this are the most insidious kind of greedy, most of us do the right thing and just scrape by and he's not content enough with his business income, but has to go and claim payments he's not entitled to and dodges paying the correct rate of child support.
Seriously, the fuckin cheek!!!
Maybe the other mother has moved on with another man and they support themselves?
Maybe she would rather do it herself than get bitter about the deadbeat?
She’s obviously made peace with it all and doesn’t let his deplorable behaviour effect her own life?
I wouldn’t do anything on her behalf.
Sometimes it better to just accept...what’s that saying about resentment and anger, it hurts you, not them.
Are you sure you want to have his baby?
Why would you continue seeing and sleeping with such a deadbeat?
I mean you knew what he was, it seems you only care now that you are pregnant, did you care about her predicament before?
We where going good before I fell pregnant the other women does have a man an most likely good support from her. I always told him he should pay more or open a account for her but he didnt care nor has never made contact, it always worried me he doesn't care about his daughter. I was to far along to do plan B an I didn't think I could have any more kids..
I just don't know if it's worth putting him in birth certificate to get a shitty $14 .
My sons dad isn’t on BC and I still received child support. There are ways other than BC as some blokes refuse to sign it anyway.
In our case once he realised I wasn’t backing down the father signed a statutory declaration.
If you have photographic eveidence you should totally use it to prove your case. Even as a business owner he has to declare his business income. Is he actually doing tax returns? Because you’ll find he’s actually scamming the system waiting until his kids are 18 and then will try and do all of his tax returns and be caught out for fraud. I say this as my partner is a sole trader. Any income his business earns that in excess of what the business uses becomes our family income which affects any payments we may receive. Any money he spends on his business is income we use and it count to our income especially if it’s a big ticket item for the business. I’ve suggested we create a business and pay ourselves a wage and he said we’d still have the same kind of drama if we declare everything properly. Is there a chance he does lots of cashies and just doesn’t declare it? I honestly don’t know how there’s types of “men” manage to get away with this type of stuff.
You could have a business that makes a million dollars a year and run the business at a loss by buying new equipment etc, and not pay yourself a wage and you can declare a zero income. They usually come undone by trying to claim personal expenses as their business expenses or being investigated for living above their declared means eg, someone that claims they are living on 20k a year probably won't have money to go overseas, out to a restaurant every week or buy their kids $400 pair of shoes so they will look at things like that and readjust income and make life hard for them in future years when they try and claim things. That's why it's always best to go with CSA collect even for a measly $14 because you never know when they are going to get stung and have previous years adjusted.