Please tell me I'm not the only mum who feels this way, I want to run away at the moment. I'm a single mum of one, I ask him to do something and it's a fight. Asked him when we got home today to pack a bag for his sleepover tomorrow night at my parents, didn't do it, left it until bedtime to do, asked me to wash his school pants at 7.30pm!
I work full time as a nurse, so I start at 7.00am everyday, so doing washing at 7.30 at night is the last thing on my mind.
I ask him to pack his bag, he tells me to stop rushing him. I lost it, I can't deal with this any more. I never get time to myself, I never go out, everything I do is for him.
Please tell me I'm not the only mum feeling this way.
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Nope, you definitely aren't the only one. I totally understand the frustration and big respect to you for doing at a single parent. I'm not sure how old your son is but it sounds like he's capable of doing things for himself (whether he does it or not is different). My kids are quite young but when I get to this level when I literally want to walk out, I just totally drop the ball and let everyone fend for themselves. It doesn't last long and sometimes in that time they can do stuff for themselves, but sometimes I just need to have that break away even if its just a mental shift and not a physical shift. I remember when my first was just a baby and the constant crying would wind me up so much and our child health nurse told me "just put the baby somewhere safe, even on the floor because they're not going anywhere, and just walk outside for a while and be by yourself until you've calmed down." I still do it now, the time out (for me) bit, not the lay them on the floor. Good luck momma, you got this!
How old is your son?
My son is 10.
Personally I wouldn’t expect a 10 year old to be doing his own washing or expecting him to ask me to. I’m a single mum and nurse too. I wash their uniforms nightly. 2 kids
She didn’t ask him to do his own washing. It just comes down to reminding him when he gets home, if he needs his clothes washing and get him into his own routine of his own jobs.
Single mum to one 12 year old here, work full time.
I don’t rely on him regarding uniforms, he has three and on Wednesday nights I say, make sure all your uniforms are in the wash.
Then I wash them.
Yes times that by 3.. it’s Normal. It’s stressful and it wears me down. With one it should be a little easier to manage, maybe don’t let him do anything until these things are done straight after school. I have one boy and 2 girls and my boy is the eldest and I find him the most casual, take my time in his own world kid. He is so different to the girls but he is a good kid. When they walk in the door , I make them unpack their lunch boxes put them out on the bench out bags away and take their school clothes off. If they haven’t done this then they do nothing. It’s hard on your own just try not to try stress, I used to stress so much about it and it made me worse. I don’t let my kids do a thing in the morning until they are completely ready for school then tv can go on.