My husband has expressed interest in being pegged, even wearing lingerie and being called a woman. I feel so conflicted as to wether he still wants me or if he is actually gay and wants to be with a man. I know it took a lot for him to express these feelings to me but I’m not sure if I can put myself out there sexually if I don’t really feel he wants to be with me in return. The last couple of times we were intimate I felt he was as interested (hard) as he used to be and am wondering if he isn’t attracted to me anymore.
Has anyone done anything things like this for their husband and it has enhanced their relationship??
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I think it’s time for some really open discussions with your husband. You need him to reassure you, and he is the only person you can get answers from.
Couples peg, men cross dress, it doesn’t mean that he is gay or bi. Sometimes people are curious, seen it in porn or what ever and so want to give it a go, then that’s the end of that.
You need to be able to talk about your concerns though. He could have been less hard for loads of reasons (if he was), being tired, alcohol consumption, medical conditions etc can have an effect on hardness.
At the end of the day, the best way to tackle this situation is talking to your husband.
PS you are under no obligation to peg your husband. Just because it interests him, if you aren’t comfortable or don’t think you can ‘get into it’ or it crosses a line for you, then don’t do it. If it’s something you’d like to try once to see what the fuss is about then go for it.
My sister’s husband has recently expressed that he will be transitioning to a woman. I’m not sure what his sexual preferences are and what they get up to behind closed doors (not my business plus my sister is sooooo closed she would never tell me).
The scary part as a family member is making sure my sister is ok with the arrangement, particularly because she doesn’t speak much about important things.
I know this isn’t exactly answering your question but the only advice I want to give you is to always make sure you are comfortable with whatever you are doing. Also, try to talk to someone you really trust (as well as your partner) or a counsellor if you need to.
Good luck x
This isn’t going to be PC, warning....
I’m all for people being transgender, gay, bi, whatever you are, be it.
However, being brutally honest, I want a mans man.
I would find this incredibly unattractive and it would seriously worry me about his sexual orientation.
It’s just my basic human instincts that I can’t control.
I just like traditional men that just like women and lead in the bedroom lol
I would talk openly with him.
Hubby had a pegging fantasy that he thought he would never have. And it wasn't until I found something online (that caused a MASSIVE argument, where we nearly separated), that he actually spoke to me about it.
Since then, I told him I was fine with the pegging and actually helped him realise that he wasn't strictly hetero. What we both actually classify is heteroflexible, which is where you are pretty much straight except for a little attraction to the same sex.
After we spoke about it, I figured I'd embrace it because I love him. I got us a pegging starter kit and the rest is history.
I unfortunately can't speak about the woman or lingerie. But honestly just talk it out, and see what comes from it.
Hubby also benefited from seeing a psychologist to talk about everything that he wasn't yet able to speak to me about.
Sounds like you may need to sit down and talk to him about how you are feeling and just get some reassurance from him that he is still attracted to you and wants to be with you.
That being said if you are open to it have a chat set some boundaries and guidelines and maybe just start slow with a dildo, a full on strap on and pegging him is probably very full on and confrontational to try right off the bat.
It’s a heteronormative idea to think this makes him gay. Not your fault. It’s our society’s. He clearly loves you and has trust in you and your relationship. He’s attracted to you or he wouldn’t ask you to do it!
You may find it fun yourself. It sounds kinda sexy.. you’re the powerful one. And you get to be the deliverer of this fantasy. And maybe you have some of your own to share?! I think this will take you guys next level!