I need help moving on from sexual abuse. 10 years ago I was sexually assaulted. And because of the circumstances, my story was picked apart, nobody believed me, I was even made fun of because of it.
Ide just gotten out of a relationship. And was interested in someone new. He was a family friend. So we organized a night out with friends and family. That night my best friend started hitting on him. So I left the club upset, I went across to a beach nearby. Nobody was around so I took my top off to splashed water on myself to calm down.
A man approached almost immediately so I quickly put my shirt back on. He approached me offered to help me up and groped me in the process, grabbing my genitals bum and boobs. Asked if he could pay me for sex. I was scared so I declined but spoke saying I needed to get back. He followed me trying to talk saying I should meet him another time. I played along out of fear, he was easily twice my age. I got away from him as soon as I could.
As soon as I did I broke down, everyone caught up to me, I told them what happened. but because I put my shirt on inside out in a rush nobody believed me, including my own uncle. Some of the girls even made fun of me online, like I made it up, and actually just hooked up with someone and was ashamed of it.
Nothing feels worse then being assaulted and being treated this way. I soon found out my friend also kissed the guy I liked while I was being assaulted. Safe to say I'm not her friend anymore. But that hurt a lot to.
I've been assaulted again since in another circumstance, but havent even bothered telling because of how I was treated last time. How do I heal from this, I have healed from the assults. But not from how I was treated by everyone after it. Still to this day nobody seems to belbeleve me. How could people be so cruel.
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I also was assaulted and my best friend told people I was being dramatic, my parents found out at a later date and didn't even say anything or offer support. My boyfriend at the time said I cheated on him.
The only one who has ever understood and offered support is my husband.
Safe to say, I ditched the best friend and the boyfriend very quickly after that and my parents, well I keep a distance now.
If you can remove those people from your life
Go to your gp and get a referral to a psychiatrist
You can have multiple sessions that will help you process the grief your feeling. Turning to a face book page is probably not your best option. Too many confusing and conflicting opinions. Seek professional help. If your in australia your first 10 sessions are free. Best of luck.
Counselling, it's a terrible thing that has happened to you. Hugs x