Has anyone tried hypnosis to remember what they have brought? I have spent a bit of money ver the last few years I don’t really know on what and I’ve got nothing to show for it, I have seen a physiologist and I have been diagnosed with depression and spending was part of it
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No i don't think looking back is that necessary. Go to your bank and get a statement. I would think a psychologist could help, sure you need to know something about triggers or what happened but mostly it's about moving forward not spending too long going back over the past.
I’ve had allot at statement and it’s mainly my partner being a dick about it
I’ve had allot at statement and it’s mainly my partner being a dick about it
Are you the lady that wrote in before? Be careful you don’t go down a rabbit hole on this.
If you can’t remember spending a lot of money on stuff you didn’t need the chances are you didn’t spend a lot of money on stuff that wasn’t needed.
Have a really good chat to your psychologist about your relationship. Maybe you do have a sending problem, maybe you don’t. If you do the spending for the entire house (buy clothes and food for the family) that could add up fast. Gosh major repairs on a car can easily run into thousands.
Make sure this isn’t a relationship issue, and not a spending issue. Also if there is no evidence you spent that money, is it possible he spent the money?
I’m not saying not to analyse your behaviour. Please do, but also analyse if he is being reasonable and if his reaction is in proportion to the problem or is there something else going on.
Agree, partner being a dick can have an awful psychological impact and make things very hard to see clearly. That 'foggy' feeling and memory is common . I'd suggest for future to write down all major spends or issues that cost or lose you money. And to separate accounts and lock it down so you can be absolutely sure of what is happening.
Look in your bank statements? Or did you buy everything with cash?
I think looking forward and learning skills to be aware of what your buying now is far more important than determining what you spent money on in the past..
Looking in your wardrobe, wandering around your house, your car, and looking at bank statements would give you an idea of what you did in the past.
It’s fairly easy to blow a lot of money.
Now is the time to work out a system so you can track your spending in the future.
Is your partner hounding you about this? If you're the one in the house that buys food, fuel, clothes, school stuff and all the small things to keep the house going then chances are the money has just been sucked into the massive pit of life! If you're at the point of considering hypnotism I can only imagine he's really pushing this. Please think less about where the money has gone and more about your relationship and whether it's a healthy one x
Oh if this idea is coming from your partner, that is him creating an issue, creating stress/pressure/blame. It's abuse and it's gaslighting. There is no way to fix the 'issue' because (there very likely isnt one) but he will never be happy no matter what you do. The issue is him and what he's doing to you.
Impulsive spending and mental health do often go hand in hand - it's because your brain loves that little dopamine rush you get from making a purchase and therefore starts this vicious little cycle.
It's good that with the help of a psychologist that you've been able to recognise that because that will help you in terms of future spending.
What's not healthy (or necessary) is dwelling on money spent. That money is gone, no amount of pinpointing exact items or dollar amounts is going to bring it back - it's just going to make you feel more guilty when you can't account for it and that will just be a further detriment to your mental health. You don't need to torture yourself over it!
Spending usually goes with bipolar, has your psychologist considered this?