Do you think bed wetting should be punished? First of all I am a single mum and have been separated for 5 years my daughter is 9 and still wets the bed. I was a bed wetter when I was younger and know eventually she will grow out of it, I don’t punish her for it but keep trying to encourage her, but when she goes to her Dads every fortnight he punishes her if she does and takes electronics off her for the day and she get extremely bored plus they yell at her I feel this is to much but what can I do?
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That is really sad. She's asleep ffs. I would be extremely pissed off. I'm not one to scream child abuse for disciplining your own child but this just seems so cruel and I would ring your states child protection agency to see if this is something you need to make a complaint for.
Also if you haven't already, take her to the Dr to see if there's anything going on for her to be bedwetting still, maybe a chat to an incontinence nurse for advice and equipment?
You're kidding! CPS have alot more important things going on than shit like this! It is NOT child abuse, it's him parenting how he thinks is right. Some people don't understand how everything in the body works!
To the Mum, you can try bed wetting alarms bought from the chemist or online. At her age though i would also be taking her to gp for urine, bloods and an ultrasound to check all her plumbing has developed properly! Next step would be a consult with a pediatric urologist. Good luck!
No I'm not kidding. This could be just one of many things they do. I'm sick of people NOT reporting things then hear on the news some poor kid that was killed because of ongoing abuse. Yelling at a 9 year old for wetting the bed in her sleep is not normal parenting, you would need to be a complete idiot to think that will work. If it's a one off, nothing will even happen however over the years if other things are reported it will help them see a bigger picture.
No, it shouldn’t be punished. I think it’s time for you and the ex to see your GP, so he can get some facts about this issue.
Bed wetting is often linked to a missing hormone. For your daughters psychological health it’s time to seek support. Because the chances of her dad stopping the punishment without some education on the topic is low.
First understand that bedwetting is NOT her fault. Its genetics which causes bedwetting among other things.
Get help. Use a bedwetting alarm - https://onestopbedwetting.com/bedwetting-alarms/
These are medical devices which work well and can help your daughter stop bedwetting.
Good luck!
Hello lovely. My husband was the same with my son. He felt like it was something he could control and used to get angry. My son is now 22 and has never had a time that he didn't bed wet. We had him to all the doctors, we tried Minirin which helped a little, we tried a bedwetting alarm (woke up everyone else but not him lol) and we tried waking him up through the night, toileting just before bed, waking him up early, visits to urologist, scans...you name it, we've tried it. Over the years, my husband came to realise it wasn't something that my son had control over but the damage had been done and this contributed significantly to my son's low feelings of self-worth and now mental health issues including attempts at suicide. You need to talk to your ex and make sure he understands the long-term repercussions of consonant belittling of your daughter. The thing that has finally made some difference to my son is that he was diagnosed with sleep aponea and now uses a CPAP machine. Since using this, he has many more dry nights than wet so this might be something for you to consider down the track. Good luck and I truly hope this is something she will outgrow. x
What the actual fuck! He is probably the reason for the bed wetting! That is insane. Def worth a gp visit if you haven’t already.