Has anyone ever donated their eggs? What was the process? What were your reasons? Do you know the person? Do you already have children? If they are old enough do they know and how do they feel? I’ve always wanted to donate my eggs once I’m done having children. Now I have a son I feel even stronger about donating my eggs but I would love peoples opinions and to know more about the process.
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I personally would only ever donate to someone I know. I couldn’t imagine my children having biological relatives and not knowing them or the possibility that one day they meet one another and not realise and get married etc.
It’s a very selfless thing to do and if you could remove yourself from any “biological” thoughts unlike myself you are a special, selfless kind xx
This has always been something i have wanted to do when I am done kids also. I am not really sure why. I guess it just breaks my heart thinking about a possibility if my eggs weren't good enough and I needed donation eggs, I'd love for people to be open about that I guess. Which is why I'd love to be able to donate since i *think* my eggs are healthy and able (although not at a stage where I'd have any idea for sure).
I've had my kids young, still not finished. But I feel like I'd be a great candidate once I reach e a rly 30's. I don't feel like I would have any issues with having "biological" children out there, I don't really see it that way. Once I pass over my eggs, I pass over everything to those people. Obviously lots of legalities thst you must go through ect ect and a lot of counseling before hand. Also with your current partner, if you have one, because of obvious reasons. But I would personally prefer it was someone I didn't know.. unless it was an immediate family member (But I don't have any family members who would need my eggs).
I think I would always be open and honest to my kids. Yes, there is someone out there with half of their genes.... they'd be fascinated by that and I hope proud that their mama was giving and went through that to donate. I don't know as far as legalities when it comes to them ever wanting to contact them ect ect but that all comes part and parcel with research when the time comes...
It’s quite an involved process. Fertility treatment is quite challenging, especially if you don’t get a baby at the end of it.
You also need to think about if you are happy for a child to contact you one day. There is quite a lot of pressure being applied by now adults conceived using donors wanting access to there genetic family information.
https://www.ivf.com.au/treatments/donor-programme/egg-donation
I am a member of quite a few dna genealogy sites and some people find out they are donor conceived and can be hurt by it. I think as long as the parents tell the child from a young age how they were brought into the world it wouldn't be a shock. I think it is a lovely thing to do for someone who can not have children of their own.