Hi sisters,
I have a son 12 who has told his father that he wants to follow with him in another town, we have a court order in place till he is 18. It started from having a disagreement and we took his technology away, I think he is doing it cause out of spite. But deep down I think he wants to go am I been selfish for not letting him or should I consider it?
I don't have a worry about him raising him but he works in another state 2 weeks on 1 week off so his girlfriend n parents will be the one raising him.
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I wouldn't. His dad neefs to tell him that's not possible. But I can't tell you what to do, just don't do anything out of guilt or feeling selfish.
Why does his dad need to tell him no and that’s it’s not possible? Maybe dad wants him there. Son seems pretty happy to go. Apart from mum being put out that son no longer wants to live with her I don’t see an issue?
They have orders and he'd be 2 weeks out of 3 without a bio parent so that would be a huge factor for me. But anyway not as a result of an argument or discipline. That's what dad needs to say for now. If he wants to consider it that's a discussion he can open, probably privately at first.
He is old enough to to have a say in where he lives. As long as there is a responsible person in the home to care for him then there shouldn’t be an issue. If he wants to move with his dad and step mum then it’s something that should definitely be discussed before stopping it completely. I’m sure if son wanted it so bad dad could get court orders changed
I’d let him choose, if dad is ok with it too. It would hurt but if that’s what he wants.
I have been in similar situation before and I tried to say no which just made him pull away further, attitude got worse and nobody was happy. Let him go and see how it goes, he can always come back if it seems he doesn't get along with the new girlfriend.
Also for an older child to want to move usually means they are not happy at school either, so that might need to be looked at if you don't let him move. Bullying or lack of friends.