Hi ladies,
I’m lost, I’m not sure what to do.
I have a 15 year old son who thinks the rules don’t apply to him. He doesn’t do his schoolwork and then becomes aggressive when he is asked to complete his work. When he applies himself, he gets really good grades but he just has no motivation and claims that he has trouble concentrating?
When we remove his phone as we believe this is a distraction he again becomes aggressive verbally and begins intimidation tactics. He has been told that his phone is a privilege and not a right. He is taller than both of us and it can be quite scary.
Is there such a thing as a youth program that deals with this type of behaviour?
I’d really love some ideas or suggestions on how to manage this stage?
Thank you from a very lost mum.
Disrespectful teenager
Disrespectful teenager
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Headspace
I have one of these, but to a much lesser extent. i think i have worked out the issue however trying to sort it out is harder. I believe for my dude it's a couple of things, struggle to do well at school and i will admit i have pushed hard in the get good grades camp. So hard to keep me happy when he naturally isn't drawn to school style of learning. and post lockdown and sharing an office i would say inattentive add. he can't sit for more than 10 mins and is distracted by anything. however like yours if he is interested and puts in the effort is very capable and gets good marks. however he is not driven to do that often. the phone is a massive issue here too. we have iphones so can lock screen time, and manage content, nothing can be loaded without my permission. we don't have the aggression so much but there is defiance and i think that is about beeni g a teen and testing boundaries. he always gets the same response but it never makes it easier. good luck don't give in or give up
We have had very similar issues with our 12yr old daughter. Thinks family rules dont apply to her, yells and screams at everyone etc. She is taller then me and backed me into a corner in the kitchen during an outburst too. When things were calmer we sat her down and spoke with her explaining that we needed to now seek outside help. We went to the GP where she had bloods done to check her hormone levels, thyroid and vitamin levels as they can all impact your mood. The results were fine so she is now seeing a psycologist. Only 4 sessions in so far so its early days but I can see some small changes already. It has also helped me cement some new rules which are removal of mobile phone and social media for the time being due to her getting into friendship troubles etc resulting in a suspension from school for fighting