Hi I’m wanting to post anonymously please-
I’m 31 years old, I have three boys aged 7,9,11. After my last child I was sure I was done having kids.
Lately though I’ve been feeling the urge to have another. I’m very torn though. Please don’t judge me but the logistics of having a fourth is daunting. I worry about the costs involved with getting things like a car big enough to fit us all if we had a fourth, fitting a fourth into our three bedroom small town house. We live remotely so costs would also be quite high with traveling costs, accommodation for the time of birth. The ramifications of having to take time off work when I have the baby. I don’t know if my job would remain open for my return. We are a two income family but need my job financially to help cover the mortgage etc.
My last baby was obviously almost 7 years ago so I no longer have any baby items, cot, Pram etc. I’m just so torn. I don’t know if it’s feelings surfacing now because my “baby” is so grown up now at almost 7 yrs old and I’m feeling sad about that or if the feelings are a genuine want for a fourth child. I have had all three babies via caesarean due to different reasons (breech, low lying placenta etc) so my recovery time would also be significant. I don’t know if this is really a question more so just looking for some kind guidance/reassurance in how I’m feeling. Thankyou
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