Hi mummas! I’m sure these are things that you have heard at least once or twice before but I’m starting to get really pissed off with people making comments all the time and no matter how many times I tell them to stop, they just don’t! These comments started off as “oh you have one child, give her a sibling!” We did give her a sibling almost 2 years later but that was 100% our decision. I ended up with two girls and pretty much straight after no.2 is born, I get “oh you need to try for a boy” and I have had that thrown at me for pretty much 3 years now. So today I am pregnant with baby no.3. Again 100% our decision. Unsure of sex yet but all I’ve heard from family that know is “it’s a boy, it has to be a boy”. I’m OVER hearing it! I really want to find out the sex of this new bub and If it does happen to be a boy, I’m tempted to tell everyone it’s another girl just to be a smart ass. I’m not even 12 weeks yet and I’ve also heard “you have to have another because 3 is an odd number”. Like hello? Who is the one carrying these babies and looking after them 24/7? I love my family but their comments really fire me up because they just don’t shut up! Especially about me having a boy. Boy or girl, I’m done after this one but I know I’ll have my partner on my back if it isn’t a boy and I’ll have the rest of my family continue to comment about trying for a boy. Any advice on how to tell them nicely to mind their own business?
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Tell them you're having 8 kids and you would like them to start helping out with housework and babysitting now so everyone is used to it.
Watch them leave you alone then 🤣
Really though, this happened to me too and I didn't take any of it to heart. My first was a boy and I fell pregnant again quickly with my second, which was a girl. So I was told i could stop now because I had a pigeon pair even though everyone knew I wanted a big family. I fell pregnant with my third and I got it better be a boy because 2 girls will fight. I did have a boy. Then I fell pregnant with my fourth and was told it should be a girl to even it up. Then I had a boy and was told to try again for another girl because every girl needs a sister blah blah.
Just do you and laugh at them!
If it was my family I’d rip shreds off of them.
I got this a lot with my last baby. I had 2 girls when I met my partner and we have gone on to have 3 boys. The amount of time I got asked with my last “arnt you disappointed you didn’t get a girl” “are you going to try for a girl” “i bet you feel horrible you couldn’t give your partner a girl” ect ect. I got so fucking over it. I even had to remind my family that I DO have girls! You know the ones I had first!
This happens in reverse too. I had 8 and was constantly ridiculed with 'when are you going to stop, don't you have a TV, you must love kids, are you Catholic, don't you believe in contraception' and on and on it went.
No one is ever bloody happy damned if you do, damned if you don't. Learn to tell them to mind their own business. I wish i had of.
I want a 6th so bad but I have copped so much crap about having the last 3 it’s not even funny. It makes telling people I’m pregnant stressful and I actually dread it. When I rang my mother after I had given birth to my last to let her know, there was no congratulations or is the baby okay I got “so your done now, please tell me your done now”
Oh absolutely ! With my 8, the first 3 every one wanted to see them and rallied around. By the 4th no one was as interested .
Smile & nod. Go about your business.
If it's really affecting you just say 'I feel uncomfortable and pressured with everyone telling me what to do as it's my body and my choice. I know you mean well but please stop it.'
Also make it clear to your DH now that there'll be no more babies after this one is born & explain the toll on your body and sacrifices you have to make & can't do it again & again just to have a boy.
You can't win. You have a boy and girl and people will say you need to give them a same sex sibling so they have someone to connect with. You have only girls you get you need a boy, and vise versa. If you have two boys and two girls that's too many kids. You can't win!
My first was a boy, second was a girl.
I mentioned to someone (whilst pregnant with #2) what gender we were having, they excitedly exclaimed "Oh you clever girl! Now you have a pigeon pair and they're nice and close, you don't need to get pregnant again now".
I mean firstly, clever girl? Like I actually had any control over the gender of my unborn child! Would I have been a dumb girl had it turned out to be another boy?
And secondly, who are you to tell me this should be my last pregnancy!?
I did end up having a third, the sole reason being that I wanted another child (imagine that right?). I don't think I got one congrats, instead I got a lot of OMG you're crazy and Holy shit, why?
I just told people point blank that they were being rude and insensitive, pregnancy hormones left me with very few fucks to give 🤣
Haha, I know a few people who had a pigeon pair and was so sick of them fighting that they had another so that at least one of them would have a same sex sibling to get along better with 😂
I have 7 kids. 5 boys. 2 girls. Oh the drama of it all. No one is happy. Shouldn’t have had them young. Should have stopped at the boy and girl. Should have tried for more girls. Should have had less boys. Should have a TV. Should explain how I find the time to have sex with more than 3. Let’s talk about my car has to be a Nanna van right? Going for the football team? Keep going you’ll have spares for the game. How can you afford them? What’s the shopping bill like? Are they all to the same father? No they aren’t? Well I’m practically a slut then aren’t I? Hope you don’t seperate again no one will want you with that many kids. God you can’t win honey. Just tune them out and move on and tell them to stick their opinions up their asses