We are currently TTC baby #1 as a couple (though I have 2 children to a previous relationship). It has only been a couple of months, it took around 18 months to fall pregnant with my first and then 8 months with my second. My youngest is 6 so I’m concerned my age is beginning to have an impact (just 30) or my partner isn’t very fertile. We had a limited window to fall pregnant as I have a one off work opportunity for 2022 so need to be pregnant by November, to allow 9months for pregnancy and then a couple of months home with bubs.
I guess my question is, would you just continue to ‘try’ for longer and risk missing out on your work opportunity, or not having ‘any’ time home with Bub (partner could take paternity leave though)... Or would you go back on contraception for a year, until late 2021 to start trying again after work opportunity but risk it taking a long time to fall pregnant..?
I know ultimately we are the only ones who can make the decision but I’m interested to hear some others’ answers and or reasoning to help me think it over. My partner has ultimately said it’s up to me- as much as we really want a baby now he knows how much my career means to me... I would like as ‘little’ an age gap as possible given there’s already going to be a minimum of 6-7yrs which adds to my impatience!
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You don’t state your age or if you’ve spoken to an ob/gyn. Maybe that would be the best person to consult
it depends on the type of person you are. I personally struggle with separation from my babies so I wouldn't plan to have a baby if I knew that I would need to separate for work soon after it was born.
But I know so many laid back people who can easily separate from their children and would happily go for it.
What were you like with your first two? Could you leave them without anxiety in that first year?