Hi everyone
So yesterday Friday 27th November my brother informed me that he has prostrate cancer the thing is he is only 25 and his fiancé is pregnant with there first child who is due in January (my daughter will have a little cousin 1 year younger then her and she was born January 7 but was due on the 17th my sil is due the 16th ) I don’t know how to handle this a part of me is so scared of losing him as we lost our mother 6 almost 7 years ago to a Stoke when she was just 43 ( she had me when she 17 my brother at 25 I’m now 32) and I was the one who had to give the doctors the ok to turn of life support and tell them what to do about her organs and what not and the thought of losing my brother is something I can’t handle my son who has autism won’t handle losing his favourite uncle and my brother is the only uncle he has ever know as his uncles on his father’s side haven’t seen him since we was a baby and my son is now 10 and a part of me is saying it’s ok he will make it and not to worry he event told me not to worry but the big sister in me is worrying I’m trying to put on a brave face for my kids and my brother but I really don’t know how to handle it
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There is no other way to do this but your way. It’s ok not to be ok.
Be honest with your brother. Tell him your scared to death.
All the best sweetheart! Sending your brother love light and healing vibes
OK! Take a big breath. What stage cancer is this? If they caught this early he has a wonderful chance of beating it. If it's been caught later and he has a higher chance of dying then as hard as it is, you need to relax. The last thing your brother or child needs is you getting anxious about death. If it is terminal he could still have years left, so just live life the way it's meant to be and make time for him wherever possible. My brother has stage 4 cancer and he has been told he has 2 years left at the maximum. We don't talk about it unless he wants to, he is not a sick person to look at you wouldn't know he is sick. He lives his life as normal while he can. Just make time for him. Don't make every conversation about cancer and treatment.
My dad (71) was diagnosed last year with prostate cancer. They did hormone therapy and were going to do radiation but due to a complication they ended up removing his prostate. He had his op a few weeks ago and all is looking good so far.just waiting to find out if they've got it all. It's a recovery process and there were post op complications but he had the the best doctors and fantastic care.
My only suggestion is to just be there. And being so young consider sperm banking if he wants more kids. It can effect his ability to do stuff.
My brother got diagnosed with prostate cancer a couple of years ago, at 44. Luckily it was caught early and they could remove the prostate. He is cancer free now.
That is one good thing with prostate, there is a good chance of removing it.