For those that do escorting or similar as a job. Where/ how do you begin? I’m in vic if it makes a difference.
Is it very much a certain look/weight/style they’re after? Or a wide range of females?
How do you keep yourself safe id assume not all clients would want a cap on? How do you learn the ropes? It’s not a job I’d assume you sit in on and learn lol but all i picture in my head is someone knocks on your room and you’re ready and waiting. No chit chat just straight into it? How do you know you’re good enough? And how do you get the non sexual jobs in it?
Sorry for the hundred questions I don’t know if I’d have the confidence to go through with it but I’m in a point at life that I feel I want to explore this road to get ahead. I’m in late 20s and single so why not?
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I've been a high class escort for 20 years. I could answer all your questions but I don't like being the one to have gotten someone as young as you, with potential like yours, into an industry that's rife with drugs, creepy men, and safety issues. I can hold my own as ive been in it so long and I never started as young as you did. The younger you are, the more at risk you are because you are young and inexperienced and punters can sniff a new girl out a mile away. You'll be bait in their hands.
However, I have worked with women who are bottom of the barrel drug addicts, to women studying and working in Law and Engineering etc... The turn over rate in the industry is extremely high as most women cannot maintain the demands of the job for long. It's not always as easy money as it seems. It's fucking hard core work. Don't be fooled into thinking it's easy cash
You have to be an amazing actress, and almost all beginners quit within the first few months.
This is only a snippet of the reality of sex work.
Thank you for your helpful reply! It has given me somethings to think of!
I wasn’t expecting it to be easy cash as such I could only imagine the jobs and emotional and mental toll it could take on those in it. Thank you for your reply
Perhaps the problem is that you're working in a role that uses your TAFE certs rather than working your way up using your degree. You're young. Fix that.
Yeah and some need it to pay for University. I wanted to change my life and go but no way in hell I can afford to.
You do know you don’t have to pay upfront? Have you heard - of HECS or I think it’s HELP now?
Check out some podcasts there are quite a few that talk about sex work.
Do some research and find agencies in your area. They would be best to ask all of these questions to.
There is no look/weight/style of woman, it is a wide range.
Condoms are an absolute must.
If you were doing it in a hotel room - with an agency you would tell them when they have arrived and that you have the money and tell them when they have left - no agency you should find someone you can tell the name and details of the person you are meeting, where and when then if they don't hear from you after so many hours to call you.
The client wouldn't just walk in and begin, they should shower first. Before you start you would go over boundaries and/or what experience they want.
How do you know how you are good enough? They come back
On top of all of that you have a lot of personal maintenance that you would need to keep on top off. You don't need to have fake nails, fake tan etc but you will need to look after your nails, hair, eye brows and body hair including pubic hair (trimmed/shaped/bare whatever your preference).
There is an app called seeking arrangement where you can set what you will and won't do this includes the non sexual work (dates) as well. It seems to be very popular but again make sure you are safe.
Definitely do your research before you get into it. Good luck
Please take it from me and don't go there, some people like the lady below actually do this well and can handle it but its a very slim amount. She is correct, it's rife with drugs and creepy men. I did this for 2 years as a 22yr old and have suffered the mental scars ever since (im now 33). Its a whole new world of things you don't want to introduce yourself too, not to mention the other woman who do this and you will have to surround yourself with-a majority will do anything to ruin you especially if you are good looking and the men like you. Its nothing like what you described, there is a lot of talking required, a lot of sexual things you would have never heard of and a huge amount of acting on your part. I'm past it all now but looking back I am very surprised I am still alive and surprised how many years it took me to get over all I saw and did. It will actually really help me to know I helped stop someone go through all that I did so please please think very carefully about it and realize you are better than this xxx
On my relationship advice forum, there was a post from an ex prostitute who had issues finding a man who could accept her past. Many men have a hard time being with a woman that has done this line of work, is it fair, no, but is it common, yes There is also the case of seeing people who were clients years down the track, in your social circle, work, kids parents etc. Do you want to be always looking over your shoulder or having to have this difficult conversation in every relationship you have. This woman didn’t tell him, but someone from her past did, your past always catches up with you.
I was an escort for 2yrs. Had two children at the time. I did incall (they came to my home) i had a 'madam' and girls who manned the phones, as me. It took awhile before they actually got to meet me BUT I never had a bad one. I wasn't skinny and I made $3000 in my first two weeks. Maybe it was luck? I just liked what I did and I was an amazing actress lol. Towards the end it became too much as the 'madam' did not respect that I had children, pushed too much for me to work, while they were home. I did get into the drugs side of it, unfortunately. (Clean now) As I said at first it was good, I would definitely do it again. Met some wonderful regular clients, and some I never saw again. Some tried to push the no condom thing, but I never waivered on that, despite being offered extra $. Do your research, if you do decide to go into it, don't allow anyone to test your boundaries. don't do anything you don't want to do! It's great work, if it's right for you!!!