Ok so I don't know if I'm just over reacting with hormones as I'm 6 months pregnant atm so here goes. Since I've been pregnant my partner basically won't have sex with me this whole time so far we only done it 3 times, I have to beg for it and when I do get it its that quick coz we haven't done it in that long he cums quick and I don't get any enjoyment anyway. He says he scared he's going to hurt the baby which I've given him all the info stating he won't. I'm starting to feel really unwanted in that way to the point I've found myself crying about it. Am I just being stupid for feeling this way?
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Ugh some guys just can’t get it through there brains that there dick isn’t that big
No you aren’t being stupid or anything, however begging him for sex and potentially making him do it against his will is manipulative and a form of sexual assault.
You need to respect that he just is not comfortable doing it whilst you’re pregnant.
You're not being silly. I've been through being rejected by my husband and I understand how hurt you feel.
We *know* hubby can't hurt the baby when you're having sex, we know it's not possible. However, his feelings are real and like any type of anxiety he's not going to be able to just "get over it", no matter how irrational those thoughts might be. It might not be just anxiety over hurting the baby, it could also be anxiety about the baby in general.
People believe that men are geared to want sex no matter what, but consent goes both ways, even if you're married, and a no is a no, no matter the reason.
You need to talk to him. You're not wrong in how you feel, but neither is he. Explain how you're feeling, listen to how he feels. See if you can work it out together.
You’re not being silly, your feelings are valid. However, so are his. You can give him all the info in the world, but some men just are just not comfortable with it. Just like he needs to respect your needs and boundaries, you need to respect his. Pregnancy doesn’t last forever, and you will survive without sex for a few months. Trust me, I’m not allowed to even have an orgasm when pregnant let alone penetrative sex, because it is harmful to my babies because my cervix is damaged and doesn’t work the way it is supposed to so I’m well versed in wanting but not having - you’ll get through it.
My husband was the same!!! It pretty much all started when I was pregnant with my first and he was at an appointment with me. The dr mentioned the baby being just there and bobbing around. Let’s just say he wouldn’t come near me after that. I remember begging for it and feeling the same way. I work with men and have spoken to them about it. A few told me that it just freaked them out and they couldn’t explain it. A bit awkward to talk about but could he get you off in other ways other then penetration?