I’m an anxious Mum, I stress about everything, I don’t stop my children from living their lives but I constantly question everything. We have suffered great trauma in our lives and it has become worse since that but I’ve always been an over thinker, worrier. I have been diagnosed with anxiety, I am currently not medicated for it as I don’t want to be. I function fine, I work part time. I just get extremely moody, agitated easily, antisocial and would prefer to be home, which causes problems between my husband and I because he is the absolute opposite, he loves to be out and with people. We have a trip coming up with a big group of friends and some people I don’t really know and I am so anxious over it I don’t even want to go. I worry about money, my kids being sick (one has a compromised immune system) I feel like I am always apologising and over explaining and overthinking everything in my life from work to home. I worry about what people think of me constantly (this has always been a huge issue for me since I was a teen) I worry my kids don’t have friends (is this my fault etc) Especially in a time of COVID I have hardly ventured out since coming out of lockdown. I get anxious just going to the shop, not because of COVID I just get overwhelmed. Sometimes when the kids are all playing and the tv is to loud at home I feel overloaded. I don’t quite know what my question is but I don’t know if this is normal. I don’t do anything for myself, I was going to the gym which I loved but having so much time off I’ve lost a lot of fitness and feel embarrassed to start all over again (once again my overthinking) please tell me I’m not alone. How can I fix this without medication?
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I think what you just wrote doesn't really describe someone who is dealing with this well. Medication and counselling working together, would be a lot more productive.
Not its not normal. Its anxiety. Yo uh day you function fine then list all the ways anxiety is running your life.
Theres nothing wrong with medication.
One thing i know for sure is that anxiety breeds anxiety. You owe it to yourself, your kids and your husband to treat yourself and get better.
Anxious mum here, I just wanted to clarify a few comments have said to give the medication a try. I have given it a try I was on it for nearly a year and they kept increasing my dose without much luck. I did also see a psychologist for a while but I felt talking about the trauma constantly wasn’t helping me much just making me feel more anxious. It took me a long time to cut down and wean off the medication and I don’t want to do that again. I also gained a lot of weight while taking them which didn’t help me feeling great about myself. Thankyou for the people who have suggested ways for me to cope without medication I will look into them all and try and make some time to work on myself. I understand now I need to learn some coping strategies and put in the work to change my way of thinking.
I never wanted to take medication and when I finally started it literally changed my life
You sound just like me. I'm always saying "my own life overwhelms me".
I was diagnosed ASD2 last year at the age of 43. It explained A LOT!!!!!