Leaving older siblings in charge......
I've been invited out for drinks with some girlfriend's, I said no, my partner is on night shift so I can't....
Cue lecture from miss 15 😂 shes told me I'm nearly 40, I NEVER go out and do anything for myself ever, which I don't really, unless the kids are with hubby or family and that's very very rare.....
I told her no, its terrible to leave them home to go out drinking (not that ill be getting ridiculously drunk) she said why? You leave us home when you have to work a late..... but that's different 😂
She's a beautiful responsible mature kid, she does look after the kids if I need during the week, she does dinner, readers and bed if needed (I never ever make her do this, she offers, we all pitch in and help around here) but mummy guilt is telling me its wrong 😂 she says its not a school night, they'll just camp in the lounge and have a movie night
Shes even told my friends I WILL be going and organised me to be picked up, I've told her I'll pay her to 'babysit' she told me not to be stupid (I don't pay her as such during the week either, but the deal is she doesn't have to pay her phone bills)
Gosh im rambling and being so judgemental on myself, tell me its not awful to go!!!
We have family nearby that are just a phone call away.... same as when I work nights..... this just feels wrong 😂
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Have an amazing time mumma!! You DO deserve this ❤️
Sounds like she’s happy to do it, as long as it’s not forced I don’t see an issue, she sounds lovely and responsible, go have fun.
How old are the younger ones? I get it, because if that tiby chance something happens you'll feel like youll look like a shit parent being drunk out at the clubs. So put a different adult as the primary contact. A neighbour or friend that lives close by. All bases covered then.
The other 2 are 13 and 9, pretty self sufficient, though the 9 year old is a bit more needy but only emotionally
I'll let my mother in law know ill be out..... just feels dodgy going to the pub 😂
Do it, do it, by the way, you’ve raised an amazing girl there. You’re obviously a fabulous mum.
DO IT!
You might not want to get plastered, but a few drinks? What’s the problem? None
Also a great example to set for your daughter. She needs to know that self care and socialising is important for mums too.
Clearly you have no choice. Lol hahaha I'd feel exactly the same way... a few thoughts before you do go... If you had to go in an emergency will you be able to get back quick enough? Will it be somewhere local enough that if she had to have you come back home it won't take an hr. Otherwise go and have fun. She sounds very mature and responsible...but just make sure you can get home if needed. ☺️
I'd do it.
My sister and I have 15 years age gap and when needed my mum would leave us alone together. I was a responsible child (like it sounds like your daughter is) and was a le to look after my sister.
If you've left them alone for short periods, give it a try for a longer period.
If it were me, I'd have the conversation with hubby and let him know you're heading out but your family is available to stop in as per usual. Have a great time!
Do it and feel no guilt 😘 (easier said than done I know) Miss 15 sounds more than happy to help out and the younger kids will be cared for. You obviously don't do it all the time so I'd say you've earned this!