Wanting some advice on what to do.
My best friend left her abusive, sociopathic, narcissistic partner 4 years ago. This guy is on another planet. Alcoholic. Sex addict. Cheater (multiple times) and so good at manipulating (I’ve never met anyone like him and hope I never do). He was physically and emotionally abusive and it’s the best thing that she got out!
What has me absolutely stumped is that they have 3 children together (aged 9,7 & 5) and he pays $50 a MONTH child support. He has conned the system and we don’t know what to do. He was working and getting paid cash in hand $1000/$1500 a week and depositing this into his bank (he has just cheated and run from his next partner and she has told my friend everything).
So - he’s earning $1000/$1500 a week (sometimes more) and depositing this into his account (she has bank pictures of this). Bought a new car. Has now moved to Melbourne after abusing his last partner and is claiming Centrelink on Newstart and told child support he earns $5000 a YEAR so that he doesn’t have to pay anything. I tried reporting to Centrelink and had no contact. You think they would take it more seriously (this guy has been on Centrelink for years) but no follow up. Also gave my friends details and his ex partners details to get proof and nothing.
What can my friend do? She’s a single mum of three, feeding, schooling, paying rent, dentist, doctors, uniforms, sports and everything else and this guy is getting away contributing $50 a month (he doesn’t see them, or pay for anything).
Centrelink contacted her today to say she was over paid a $1000 and won’t receive anything now. It’s an absolute JOKE and blood boiling.
Please help. Any and all advice is welcome. How do we get this guy caught 💔😢😡🤬
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Get her to take the evidence to centrelink in person. Also get her to book a councillor at Centrelink. They can help the ball roll for her as they are independent therapists whilst also having access to her files.
Social Workers i mean*
I found the ATO took my report a lot more seriously than Centrelink and CSA. Report to ATO, he's made it easier by depositing it in his bank account but if he's been working as a contractor with his own ABN there may not be much that can be done, he may be doing it all legitimately. The saddest part is he is actually overpaying by about $15 from what the minimum is for 3 kids.
Best thing to do is cut all contact and be glad youre rid of him. Just lodge the claim and let it go in if he pays it, if not it becomes a debt. Definitely do it by collect because if its private they assume youre receiving it and if you can end up double shafted.
But mentally let it go and be glad to be rid of him.
Report it to ato fraud and follow this up with child support and centrelink fraud.
Unfortunately this isn’t uncommon and unless you have a lot of photographic proof, you’re going to get nowhere. You can lodge a capacity to earn assessment and they can investigate if he has the opportunity to earn more and just isn’t. Speak to a social worker at Centrelink and get a payment plan set up for the $1000 debt, she won’t get ‘nothing’ for an overpayment of $1000, and Centrelink will agree to a repayment of as little as $10 a fortnight so she can still receive her usual fortnightly payments.
I’m a single mum of 4, and while he does pay child support, i still end up sending all clothing and food to his because he is just useless and my kids would suffer if I didn’t.
We have an amazing life because of my broken relationship; because I work my ass off to do the best for my kids. This is her chance now to become the queen she’s always been.
If you know the name of his work place, contact the ATO and report the workplace and the ex. You and both his ex partners should all make reports, might help make the process a bit quicker.
He needs to be financially supporting his kids, I am sorry your friend is dealing with this arse of a man