I have an engagement ring, wedding ring, and matching earrings from a previous marriage. They are 18 carat gold and rubies. I have kept them, I guess for our son, but am convinced they are "bad karma".
22 years after we split, it feels like such a waste of beautiful jewellery. How do I convince myself it is ok to wear/reconfigure/gift them? Am I being stupid?
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When my ex and I split we agreed that I would give my engagement ring to our daughter when she was 21. I didn't like the idea of giving her a ring of a failed relationship, even if it was her parents I just thought it would be strange. She would never have worn it, it would have stayed in her jewelery box until she had someone to pass it onto. So I thought whats the point? I took it to a local jeweller and had it turned into a pendant that she can actually wear everyday and it still has sentimental value. It cost me about $800 with a bit of added metal but its a one of a kind piece now and valued at a bit more than what the ring cost to begin with.
I think coming from your child's own mums jewelry is better than what my MIL did
She gifted my husband ( her son ) her dead ex partners wedding band that she was with long before my husband was even born to her second partner. The dead ex partner was also a failed relationship that she left long before his death. And she wondered why we never used the bad ju ju gifted ring at our ceremony as his wedding ring. Terrible karma and the most awful thing to expect us to do. We wanted our own rings or even one with happy nostalgia that had personal meaning to my husband would have been fine even. Not the one she gave him. My husband never even met the man
I wouldn't say you're being stupid, just superstitious.
Logically speaking, it's just jewellery.
Inanimate objects don't have any bearing on your life. There's no factual basis that anything terrible would happen if you chose to wear them or gift them or repurpose them.
It's usually the back story or sentiment that makes people feel off about things like bridal sets, which again is illogical because I'm sure those 3 pieces of beautiful jewellry had absolutely nothing to do with the break down of your marriage.
Why don't you give the earrings a shot?
Then you can decide later on what you want to do with the rings.
I personally would and have gotten rid of mine. Definitely wouldn't wear them again even made into something else.
My Mum gifted me her emerald engagement ring and matching wedding band from my parents marriage for my 30th birthday and I cherish it. They separated when I was 8 and my Dad passed when I was 23.
I separated from my husband when I was 36 and changed my diamond on my finger with Mums emerald. Such a sad time but I would look at my hand and feel both of their wisdom and love. My diamond ring his in a box and I thought I’d wear it on my right hand when I finalised my marriage but I haven’t. We bought the ring with my Dads inheritance and I’d like to pass it down to my daughter, maybe for her 30th.