Hey sisters!
I am so curious if anyone else has noticed their babies just being particularly upset since the beginning and going into toddler hood? My baby was so colicky, like cried for the most of the day unless he was sleeping or feeding and still at 16 months is very emotional. He still needs to breastfeed around the clock to regulate himself, he has bruises all over his head from constantly banging it on things out of frustration. We have good days where he is relatively happy unless tired but he just always seems to be on edge and ready to explode. Almost like he always needs a nap. He's my 3rd baby, the 1st was a breeze, 2nd was colicky to begin with but was a very happy toddler.
I often wonder if there's something deep down wrong with him (pain, something with his brain etc). He seems pretty neurotypical other than the head banging and some stims like hand flapping and shaking that are all pretty normal in babies for the most part. But he engages well with eye contact and back and forth communication, responds to his name, meets milestones just on time, role-plays. ADHD does run in our family though.
He's been to the DHN and doctor many times and they say some babies are just like that.
I'm not looking for medical advice, just more wondering if there's any other Mums that felt this way and thought there had to be a reason for it?
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I would take him to a peadetrician anything that your gut tells you deep down. Push for a referral for peace of mind. You know that it’s different to your other kids and it’s prob nothing but I would push for it just to make sure.
Not me but a friend's child was similar from the get go and was dx autistic finally after 3 years of exhausting, non-sleeping, overstimulated baby and toddler.
There's nothing "wrong" as such with autistic people, it's a neurodivergence like ADHD and once you have answers it can be easier to know what to do
I'm not saying your child IS autistic, but I think your gut is telling you there's something going on. It could be hearing/ear issues, speech, reflux (I wondered due to the constant feeding) etc and it would be good to maybe start with a paed and go from there. Couldn't hurt to also see if there are signs as to what is triggering these behaviours and see if you can reduce overstimulation/triggers for him.
My middle child was like this. She was such an explosive toddler! Always cranky. Sometimes I feel like we were walking in egg shells trying not to upset her. She is gorgeous now though. Really grew out of it by the age of 3/4 when she could communicate to us what was wrong.
We have had her assessed at the schools request - shouldn’t have really but I felt pushed - and the beautiful paed said to me “there’s nothing here. She’s just perfectly and beautifully quirky and never let anyone train that out of her. She’s the square peg and her teachers are going to have to understand that”
Mind you if she’d ended up with a diagnosis I would have been fine with that too!
Sorry me again 👆🏻
Also try a Chiro. Worked wonders for my friend and her 3 colicky babies. I think there’s was some discomfort there for her 3. She suggested it with my child mentioned above. Not going to lie - it made her sleep for hours but didn’t really change her behaviour.
Sorry me again 👆🏻
Also try a Chiro. Worked wonders for my friend and her 3 colicky babies. I think there’s was some discomfort there for her 3. She suggested it with my child mentioned above. Not going to lie - it made her sleep for hours but didn’t really change her behaviour.