Please help
I am 12 weeks pregnant with twins and I found our last week that one of the twins has no heart beat. I am beyond devastated! This isn’t my first miscarriage but it has hit me so hard. I have 3 other children so it would have been baby number 4 and 5, completing our family! Now I feel numb, I can’t even acknowledge the other twin. I am in a constant bad mood, always yelling at the kids, always crying. My husband and other family keep saying at least you’ve still got one, be positive, at least you can have children etc and it just makes me more angry. I know that there are so many people who have it worse than I do but I can’t shake this feeling. How can I start to move past this?
Twin miscarriage
Twin miscarriage
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Let yourself grieve.. it’s ok. You will have time to acknowledge the other little one later.
It’s ok to be sad and no still having one doesn’t lesson the sadness that comes with a miscarriage!
Sorry for your loss 💔
This is a very big mix of emotions, you're supposed to grieve yet supposed to still be happy you have one. This is something you need to speak to a professional about to help you process what's happened and to help you grieve.
I’m so sorry for your loss, allow yourself to grieve x
Aww you poor Mumma. This is so heart breaking. Look after yourself. Take time out for you to have time alone to rest and grieve. Sorry for your loss.
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I would give SANDS a call and have a chat/vent to them.
What you are feeling is absolutely normal. Even though you have another baby and you are grieving your baby ❤
I miscarried recently. I didn’t tell anyone because it was a really early miscarriage and I already have a 3 month old. I didn’t want to cop the same insensitive comments like “you still have a baby at least” or “at least it happened early”, etc. It wasn’t a planned pregnancy, and I hadn’t told anyone other than my partner but it still doesn’t make it any easier to deal with the loss. I’m sending you so much strength. Please get counselling if you feel you need it.. there’s no shame in reaching out for help xx