SENSITIVE QUESTION****
Has anyone had a termination at 12 weeks?
How did you feel after i.e did you recover quickly? How long was the procedure?
Thank you kindly..
Back story:
I have 3 children, 10, 8 and 6 months old.
This happened while on the mini pill and breastfeeding..I also got a normal period for the first month!
I have thought hard about my decision, but because of Christmas, New Year's, covid, I've had to wait an extra 5 weeks, making me 12 weeks when I get the termination.
Please no judgement just sharing experiences.... 💕
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I had one just before 12 weeks when I was 16. I thought it was the right thing but I did feel the loss strongly afterwards and it kind of triggered my maternal instincts making me really want a baby. I would read books on baby development, browse catalogues and imagine the things I would get. I had my eldest at 18. Then fast forward 16 years and a few more kids, I found myself pregnant unplanned and decided to terminate. I did not feel the same that time as I knew it was the right thing to do.
I was there for my friend who experienced this. She got there to have the abortion at 12 weeks. They did her scan and she couldn’t go through with it. It was traumatic for her. she now is very happy and expecting in February. She also says now that she can’t believe she got to that point when she feels so happy about it now. I think you have to be 100 % sure it’s what you want and afterwards it can be traumatic. My friend is 43 but doing amazing with it now and completely in love with the idea.
I had one at 12 weeks, the procedure took about an hour, no sex for a month afterwards, a bit of cramping & bleeding but no worse than a heavy period.
I had no hard feelings at all, but, I was 19 & not in a position to have a child.
I have numerous friends who have had terminations while married, some with young children, and while they get a bit sad about it, none regret it afterwards. It's a big decision, but you'll know if it's the right one.
I have had 2 terminations. My 1st I had only been dating my partner for 6 months. I was already a single mum to a 4yr old 7yr old and 10yr old. He was devastated but for me I was OK. A little upset but it was the right choice for me. Fast forward a few years we are now married and fall pregnant. We have the child who is now 7yrs. 3yrs after he was born we fell pregnant again and we terminated with him also booking the snip. It hit me so much harder this time as I was near 12 weeks. There was no way we could financially support another child. Years later it still bothers me to the point I can't be around babies as it just hurts my heart. Whilst I know it was the right decision it still kills me and I wonder what she would have been like.
Yes I have. I felt okay after, maybe a slight cramp. I bled for about two weeks. Had more painful cramps and passed large clots. So make sure you have heaps of heavy flow pads. They didn't really tell me that my milk would come in though. It was a huge surprise to me on day three. But looking back it's to be expected I suppose. I had two children at the time so it was a hard decision but my youngest was a few months old and had severe heart problems at birth and I also had csections so it put a lot of pressure on the healing wound. I made the right decision for my family. I wish you all the best I your decision xx
I have had two terminations, back in my late teens. The first was 13 weeks and the second 6 weeks. While I know the actual procedures were different, the experience and recovery was pretty much the same for both (both were performed under sedation). I remember that I did have more cramping and bleeding after the second one though.
I had one at 13 weeks. It was pretty straight forward and easy physical recovery.
They do a scan though and at that point I started have second thoughts cos I could see it moving etc… but it was kind of a process line with forms, payment, counsellor, scan, get changed, get on bed.- it was at this point I want to say no I wanted to stop but I felt I couldn’t cos I was completely alone in the room with the medical staff and it all happened so quickly with the mask being put on my face then next thing I was waking up and it was done.
I’ve had mixed feelings about it all along but if I felt I had to do it again I would. Just be 100% sure it is what you want and make sure you have someone to support you that will be there for you if you do change your mind when you get to the appt. My support person was a friend but was pushing me to do it rather than being ok when I had doubts etc…
I did many many years ago, i can't remember all the details, but i think it was over within mins and I recovered quickly mentally and physically.
I had one a few months ago at 11 weeks. I already have 4 children ranging from 18-10years old and felt we couldn’t afford another. At the time I was at peace with my decision but I’m struggling emotionally now a few months on.
On the day it’s a bit of a process filling out forms, talking with a counsellor, a Dr gives you a scan and waiting in a room alone with other ladies until your procedure.
Physically afterwards I felt light-medium bleeding but the cramping was as bad as afterbirth pains when I look back after my four children. I have since made my husband go for a snip so I never have to go through that again.
Please make sure you are at peace with your decision and have great support to help you through. All the best!!!
I had one when I was 17. I was 11.5 weeks at the time. I was very conflicted with my choice and went through with the procedure to please my family. As I woke up from surgery, I was crying and instantly knew I regretted my decision. At the time i was so naive and didnt realise how developed the baby was untill after the procedure, which led me down a dark path. I bled for months on end and found out I had retained tissue (which I eventually passed on my own). I became very anemic and was passing clots the size of my hand. I still think about that pregnancy and the innocent soul I took away. Although I have lived a a good life since the termination, I would never be able to do it again.
Hi
Sending hugs
I had a termination last week 7 weeks along.
The place i went was brilliant, everyone from the dr, receptionist and nurse were fabulous, there was no stigma or judgmental views, procedure took 5 mins or so, i was asleep the whole time. Was tired the rest of day and napped, slight cramps and spotting, emotions have been up and down so be prepared but once my pregnancy levels settle i will be back to normal, best of luck 🤞
I am 42, I’ve had two miscarriages and I have two young kids. About 6 months ago I unexpectedly became pregnant and opted to not continue with the pregnancy, I thought I was about 7-8 weeks along but found out at the clinic I was 11 weeks. I felt guilt over this and still think about it but I knew in my heart it was the right decision, and I still feel this way.
Procedure was quick, painless and good recovery.
All the best x
I had one late last year when I was around 10 weeks. It was a hard decision but we already have 5 children (blended family) and a 12 month old and it was the right decision for us as a family and where we were in life. I chose to have a medical termination at home. I was expecting it to be such a horrible, painful experience but it was all over and done with within a few hours of passing a few blood clots with no pain whatsoever. I think I bled lightly for a few weeks. I then had the mirena inserted by my gynaecologist. I was a little upset leading up to it but once it was all over I’ve been fine and haven’t thought twice about it.
You do what is right for you. Big hugs Mumma.
I had a termination at 9 weeks gestation, 12 months ago.. I have 3 children and 2 step children.
It was the hardest decision I’ve ever had to make, and in all honestly I think about it so often - it will never be something I forget about. But ultimately I made the decision based on having 5 children between my partner and I already, our youngest being ours together and only 10 months old at the time.
I chose a medical termination, taking the tablets, the women’s centres look after you so well no matter what you choose.
It’s a little more confronting than the surgical option - but it was easier for me to be at home etc.
At 12 weeks, I’m fairly certain you have to have the surgical termination, which I think will be kinder to you mentally..
You just need to make the right decision for you - I didn’t want to spread myself too thin and I didn’t think it would be fair to my body, or my mental health.
All the love in the world to you Mumma - you’re strong, brave and amazing x