We have a nanny for our 4 year old, to keep him safe during Covid, since he can't get vaccinated yet. She's been with us for 2 years already. She just tested positive for Covid, as did our son, the one we were all trying to protect. He currently has a cough. We know that the nanny had been picking up some extra work on the side, catering jobs and care.com gigs - she basically has been far less careful since becoming vaccinated / boosted.
We as a family are overly cautious when it comes to Covid. We don't go anywhere, I have as much as I can delivered - good masks for everyone always. I don't go places I don't feel comfortable, haven't been in a restaurant in 2 years. And now this - I feel defeated and angry and don't want the nanny here anymore, even though we do need the help. All my anxiety, all the upping of anxiety/depression meds, all the breathing and therapy to just have it all broken down. What do I do?
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What do you do??? How about you grow up and stop acting like a sook. It’s Covid not Ebola. And if you get your child jabbed you are an evil piece of shit. Fuck!!! The government and media has your brainwashed. How about you start thinking for yourself and actually do some research. Just incase you are too stupid to work it out - the jabbed are still getting Covid. Dumb fuck!!!!
Charming 🙄
Everyone knows the jabbed are still getting covid! Maybe you're the one that needs to do research and look at pre vaccination data compared to data after vaccination. The percentage of people in hospital, in ICU and on ventilators is much lower. The vaccine is working. Not perfectly, but it's working.
This is plain out abusive and for what? A difference in opinion? Just a horrible comment 😦 Each to their own… you make your own decision about your children and respectfully allow others to do the same. I’m stunned that you think you have the right to speak to someone like this.
The "it's covid not ebola" person has been here a few times with their abusive vitriol.
I hope OP doesn't take it personally, this person clearly has some issues.
They sound very agitated like most anti vaxxers are right now as the world closes in on them.
Had my kids Vaccinated today. you are a vile troll. My kids were first in line and how grateful I am to live in a country that we have access to this, to help give my kids the best possible chance. I am grateful for my kids vaccination. Don’t come on here and troll with your vile filth.
Wow you are very charming! Your vile filthy mouth would be more harmful to children than a covid jab!
Ewwww what grub would even speak like this 🤦🏼♀️
You are such a despicable person if you to think that it's ok to speak to another human being like that. There are many ways you could've chosen to word that. The fact that you chose the low life heartless way says many things about your character as a human. Shame on you!!
It's not the nanny's fault. What were you expecting her to do, not work elsewhere? She's not your slave she's your employee and what she does in her own time is none of your business. Your son will be fine. I hope you will be doing the right thing by your nanny and making sure she has everything she needs to ride this one out.
I get that this is scary but you need to remain calm and not act rashly. Your son is well enough to manage his symptoms at home, so he's okay.
Your nanny is just out here trying to earn a living, obviously her nannying for you guys doesn't provide her with enough income. Should she have gone hungry or not paid her rent? I am sure she didn't intentionally infect your son.
Your nanny is a person not just the help, you have not shown a single ounce of empathy for her or even any concern for her health.
Eventually life has to go on as usual, covid isn't avoidable anymore. It's something we have to live with.
I understand. You had a plan that didn't work out & it's driving your anxiety up.
However, you can't blame the nanny as you can't expect her to live a hermit life because you choose to, unless she was live-in & agreed to those terms. Her free time is hers alone. She could have picked it up from anyone - a family member, a friend, supermarket or petrol station to get fuel to come to work.
It's impossible to avoid Covid. I think you need to focus on what's to be done now, rather than what has happened. And maybe consider start living again. There's no point hiding if you're not living at all.
Covid is now going to spread to everyone. Preventing him from getting it is now unrealistic. Don't fire the nanny. It's immoral, unethical and illegal.
I really do feel for you. Unfortunately you can’t control what your employees do when off the clock, so unless you were paying them an outrageous wage and living in the middle of nowhere, there isn’t much you could have done.
We are also pretty risk adverse to Covid, mainly because my son has complex medical issues and disabilities and it’s hard enough to get appropriate medical treatment on a good day, let alone when he is terribly sick and the hospital is busy. So we have had to weigh up constantly our needs (despite being an adult he requires round the clock care, so we are reliant on disability support workers) and how to minimise the risk of Covid exposure.
There is no such thing as being able to avoid it totally. Eventually someone needs to go to the dentist, or an appointment that can’t be done face to face. A nanny was still lower risk than a childcare centre. Who’s staff were probably doing all the same things as your nanny was, but more of them and more kids etc.
All you can do now, is care for your son through this, and not waist precious energy on what ifs.
While it’s still an illness I’d prefer to not get completely, we’ve come a long way in treatments and care for Covid patients and a 4 year old is a pretty sturdy age (generally).
I think you need to accept you’re on the overconcerned/fear edge of Covid. We are going to get it. Healthy 4 year olds have really good prognosis with this, that’s why they don’t really need to be vaccinated, the vaccine offers some benefits but it’s mostly to help the broader community, and their welfare as part of that community to keep it running. As long as the nanny washes hands and has good hygiene and stays away when sick that’s all you can expect. It’s also a positive for your 4 year old to go through it now, they’ll have immunity during the peak in coming weeks/months. No point sacking the nanny over it, especially now.
Look in the bright side, after its been through you all you might relax a bit and live your life without the anxiety of catching covid stopping you.
If she didn’t give it to him, someone else was going to at some point or another.
It’s really not that bad, come off it. My kids had it (same age and younger) and they recover just fine.
Stop being a prude and learn to live with the current climate. You’re setting your kid up for a long period of sickness with a shit immune system and doing him no favours.
I would be annoyed but at the same time, it’s every where and unless you paid her for extra work to stay at home there isn’t much you can say about it. She probably feels awful as it is. Try not to stress about it too much. Hope your son is ok.don’t be too hard on her. she has a life outside of your home, that she needs to live also. I understand your anxiety. I am very cautious and do all I can to keep away it. My kids were vaccinated today and I feel so much better. Will feel even better ones the second one is done though.
I'm confused. How does a nanny protect a kid from Covid?
This seems like a troll post.
It seems they’ve lived theirs lives locked down for two years! They must work from home to need a nanny to watch the kid instead of him going to daycare and being ‘exposed’ to friends and caters and community. poor little boy Imaging the life he’s had in his developmental years due to anxiety in parents.
Its a little concerning...and pointless in the end anyway because the nanny is an employee, not an object. She would of been living her life outside of work as shes entitled to. I'm going to strongly suggest mental health help for the family.
This is like victim blaming. Think about it. Do you this she wanted it? Did she ask for it? No.
I get it. Its been really hard 2 years but blaming a person for getting covid is about YOUR mental health not HER health. You do not get to dictate her life any more than she gets to dictate yours. You don't want a nanny who works elsewhere, goes out to restaurants and lives a life? Then the answer is simple - look after the child yourself and you control the environment. BUT... your child is 4. He'll be off to kinder or school this year. And then what will you do? Don't push on your fears and anxieties onto him.
May be speaking to someone might help with some of these fears and anxieties?
And this coming from someone who works in healthcare (along with my husband) and who has family members with serious medical conditions.
So would U want to sack her over the flu or chicken pocks? It's not her fault, she wlcould have had no simptims for a long time before she felt sick. Your acting rather stupid to be honest. My entire extended foly all fully vaxed have had COVID, and good friends all vaccinated have COVID for the second time as we speak. It's not her fault.