Okay so I've just found out I'm pregnant, have 3 already all under the age of 7, I went for the first ultrasound yesterday to determined how far along and found out there is two, both only 5 weeks. I'm terrified as I'm not sure I could handle having another one let alone two!
I don't really want to terminate but it's not something I haven't thought about. I don't really have any family close and my partner isn't very supportive, my plan for this year was too eventually leave him as he does verbally abuses me, puts me down when he gets into his moods and often doesn't help with the kids unless I ask him, even then he makes things worse cause he doesn't know how to respectfully deal with them, but since talking to a psychologist I've come to see its not normal not should I have to put up with it, so before the pregnancy I was starting to put a plan together to leave but this changes that plan. I honestly don't know what I'm looking for, maybe advice on if someone's been in similar situations or what to expect if I go through with a twin pregnancy as I don't know anyone close that has had twins....
Twin pregnancy and unsupportive partner.
Twin pregnancy and unsupportive partner.
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Oh lord, do not get yourself into a pregnancy in this relationship. You’ll do it better alone that with him. I would plan leaving him. The pregnancy is your own issue, decide on that alone. Move close to where your support is. Put yourself first now, it’s time to make your move.
What ever decision you make will be the right one as long as you continue your plan of leaving.
Sure its not going to be easy, but having twins should not trap you in your relationship.
Hi mumma, I'm a twin mum who decided to stay with a guy like that. Big red flags. No help unless we had visitors or knew we were going to see friends/family the next day! I wish I had taken my preggo twin a**E and 2 yo boy to live with my parents (7hr drive away) instead of watching him stay in his world and not helping, caring and just being there for all of us. When I was in hospital with the twins, from the 2nd day he would come in and ask me when I was coming home. He wasn't coping with our son (boy has no issues), he wanted to do his own thing. The nurses didn't want me to leave as I was still very ill and they were monitoring my Bubba's in ICU. I was pressured by him to come home before I was able. Not even 3 days at home we had a friend of his come over. He argued at me, not with me. I felt so belittled. I've since lkicked him out as he'll never change and my little people are all doing fantastic. You can do this. Find your tribe/family who can support you and your lil people when you need.
Oh mumma ♥️ I fell pregnant in a similar situation, already had 2 was in a terrible marriage and knew I needed to get out. I had a termination and I don't regret it at all, it was absolutely the best decision for me and my other children. Do what's best for you!
Not quite the same but I was in a similar position. I had a verbally and emotionally abusive partner whom I was planning to leave, an 8 year old and a 6 month old. We had unprotected sex. The next day he told me to get the morning after pill as he said you can’t even look after 2 there is no way we can have 3. I was not in a good place after years of his manipulation amd belittling. So I did and then left him soon after. My life was immediately easier without his voice messing with my head everyday. Yet I often imagine what my life would be like with 3 kids, I would’ve loved 3. There is no right or wrong answer but I believe leaving him will set you free. There will be other struggles though. Especially adding twins. Get support from DV specialists. Believe in yourself.