Hi! I’ve just found out I’m pregnant again, I’m 20 weeks already. I’m scared to tell anyone and I know I can’t have/handle another baby. I have had abortions before but at the 6-8 week mark, never this late. So I’m thinking of continuing and then adoption.
How do I start the process?
Is there a way to be able to choose a family?(my family members are not an appropriate option)
Would I be able to be a small part in the baby’s life even though I have given him up? The thought of my baby being moved many times in foster care scares me, I want something secure for him.
I’m so scared and confused I don’t know what to do.
How to start the process of adoption
How to start the process of adoption
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If you are in Victoria, without knowing the legalities around it, I would absolutely be willing to adopt and have you involved in the child's life. We have been wanting to begin the process to look into adoption.
https://www.wa.gov.au/organisation/department-of-communities/pregnant-an...
This link has some good info, it is wa but I imagine all states are the same or at least very similar. Both parents need to be willing to adopt. You can't just pick anyone to have it but you can choose from a short list of families already on the adoption wait list. You're given plenty of time and support to make sure it's the right choice. It is open adoption in Australia which means contact is possible.
Here is the information for South Australia
https://www.childprotection.sa.gov.au/adoption/placing-a-child-for-adoption
Aww I feel for you. It would be the hardest thing in the world to do but good for you, for acknowledging that your child will be better off cared for the right way by loving parents. So many people out there who can’t have children and this is a priceless gift to them. Don’t doubt yourself, no matter what decision, it’s always the best one for the baby. i hope you can find the right support that you need for you and also your baby. Good luck with with everything.
Oh how I wish I could help you and take your baby on. My babies are all grown now, I want to start fostering but unfortunately my home doesn’t fit their criteria at the moment. I wish you all the best x
Iwould love to adopt your child. If it is something you want. Andif it can be done. Im in WA. I have been helping my niece with her children. I work in childcare. I have thought of being a foster mum for a while now.
Each state will have different processes. I know in NSW the process is in depth and your level of involvement is dependent on you. I placed my child for adoption, I went through the entire process. It will not start till after the baby is born. Baby is placed in a foster home (some of them are fabulous I still have contact with the lady who fostered my child) I had multiple counselling sessions with my adoption caseworker prior to signing the paperwork. This time and sessions will be the way you determine what type of adoption you would be comfortable with. Mine is an open adoption with a couple visits a year and phone calls, letters whenever the child is comfortable and requests them. Once paperwork was signed and the required 30days was over (like a cooling off period) it was then time to pick the parents. I was given 4-5 portfolios of prospective parents (these are narrowed down to this amount by the caseworker from our sessions as not to overwhelm from too many portfolios) I read them all and talked over with the caseworker the reasons why I liked or disliked each portfolio. At this point if you find one you like that’s it if not the caseworker will present another set for consideration. The parents I chose are amazing they adhere to our contract of contact and are very open to adapting that if and when the child requests it. The father of the child went through the same process attended the sessions but chose not to have a say in who is picked nor wanted contact. His choice so it shows your level of involvement is up to you. I recommend speaking to a counsellor prior to birth it helped me to have someone to talk to who posed no judgement even though my family and friends were extremely supportive in my decision of adoption it was nice to just have someone outside the situation to talk to. Adoption can be an amazing process. Good luck.