My husband left me and I just found out I am pregnant.
Please no judgement but I’ve found myself trying to figure out what to do. I have just secured myself a rental, how I still have no idea but I did. It’s just me and my 2 year old son and I’m doing menu log until some daycare spots become available. I’ve been a stay at home mum since he was born.
I’m 9 weeks pregnant and so scared. I want to keep this baby. I know I can do it alone without my ex husband but financially I have no idea how I’m going to do it. I’ve been applying to jobs with minimal interviews so I was hopeful I’d be able to go back to work. That won’t be an option once I decide if I’m going to do this. Can anybody tell me what happens with Centrelink payments? I’ve only just done through everything recently and I honestly can’t remember what I did as I was so numb during that time.
My next option is termination but I’m running out of time and it’s something I really don’t want to do but I feel is the responsible thing to do. None of my family are aware yet. It’s just my secret.
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Speak to one of the counsellors through Centrelink. Only you can make this decision, if you believe you can cope with a baby then that's a responsible consideration. You don't have to terminate just because you're scared right now. Plenty of warrior women are raising children solo and with one already, you're already one of them mate. You'll find your feet.
If you really want this baby then keep the baby. Everything will work out. Tell your family and get their support. Centrelink will give you enough to cover rent etc and you could work part time or from home. Try and come up with some ideas to work from home. It’s you that will have to live with the decision. Your son is at a great age for a sibling and at least they will have each other. Don’t do it, you really don’t want to, so please don’t. Speak to your ex and seek his support through this. He will also need to pay child support and with centrelink, it will be enough to get through. Many women do this alone. Keep strong Mumma.
I had three children and my ex pissed off and did not offer any financial assistance. I struggled at times but they are now teens, I have repartnered and I started working. I do not regret any time I spent with them. Children do not need fancy things, they just need you. They can be happy going for a walk and exploring sticks lol. The hardest part is finding accommodation and you have already done this. If you want to keep this baby then do what is right for you, right now. The future will sort itself out. Remind yourself that's tomorrow's problem <3
You can still continue to look for work even though your pregnant. Check your local cafes,restaurants pubs, servos. Go over your resume, make sure your referees are people who will give you a good reference. A friend of mine just had bad luck finding a job for a couple of years, once she had a resume re done and listed different referees she got the first job she applied for. Have a talk with you ex and tell him about bub and that you are wanting to keep bub .
You have got this mumma everything will fall into place soon enough for.
It may be hard and things might not go to plan but some how you will manage to make it work =)
Just remember some days will be harder than others but just take things One step at a time and you will succeed =)
Good luck and congratulations on your new baby
Contact child support and also Centrelink. Good luck. It sounds like you're a strong women, you got this!