Morning all sorry it's a bit of a long post.
I was just wondering if at all anyone's partners have suffered from a low sex drive and also felt as though they weren't able to perform as long or as well as they did before having a vasectomy?
Hubby use to want sex every couple of days and now only seems to want it once or twice a month, he also told me last night that he feels bad as he doesn't seem to be able to stay hard and perform for as long as we did before he had it. It's been 11 yrs since having his vasectomy and it's been the last 3 years that he's been struggling. I've never said anything as he also suffers from depression and works 8-10 hour days and then we are also busy on weekends with sport, so just put it down to him being tired.
We've tried spicing things up in the bedroom with extra long foreplay, toys, talking extra dirty to each other and nothing seems to help and he doesn't want to talk to the dr's. I want to help him but don't know what else to do or try.
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If it’s only been in the last 3 years, it’s got nothing to do with the vasectomy. You do need to gently urge him to seek medical help though.
Things that can cause these issues are stress, depressions, heart problems, obesity, ageing etc etc
He has nothing to be embarrassed about, GPS discuss this kind of thing all the time, if he is on medication for his depression that can cause libido/erection issues too!
Very common for men (and nothing at all to do with the vasectomy) probably age/diet/lifestyle related. There are numerous things on the market to help him. My hubby takes pill everyday to keep his testosterone level up. Visit the gp or do a google search and see what you find.