For me it's more about maturity or ability to make decisions at a certain age. I would consider a 19 year old dating a 39 year old very wrong even though it's legal, because the 19 year old is still at a vulnerable age and can be easily manipulated and controlled by someone much older. Same with younger people dating elderly people, say a 50 year old starting to date an 85 year old, I would be concerned that the 85 year old might get taken advantage of and there's many stories where that's the case. So I guess I do think there's an age gap too big but I couldn't put a number on it, it would depend on the actual ages of the people involved.
When there's an imbalance of power or if it's illegal.
I do tend to think being in very different life stages can pose an issue as well though. For example a 38 year old and a 23 year old are together. 38 year old might be ready to start having children but the 23 year old might not be there yet.
Or a 40 year old and a 60 year old, 60 year old might be thinking about retirement, settling down or travelling while 40 year old may be right in the prime of their career.
Depends, there isn’t a specific wrong age gap for me. For example a 20 year old dating a 16 year old is just gross and inappropriate but a 25 year old dating a 29 year old is not. Life stages, maturity and life experience matter.
I wouldn’t consider dating anyone close to my adult sons age, again, ick! Or close to my parents age, ick!
But also it’s important to take into account wether your potential partner may want kids etc. is there are power e balance with finances (being financially set in life while your partner is starting out can set up a power e balance etc).
It's different for everyone. I prefer older men, at least 10 years older but not more than 20. If I was 15 dating a 25 year old that would be wrong obviously but I'm in my 30s now. As long as it's not illegal and there's not a power imbalance I think it's fine.
I'm a 48 woman seeing a 30 year old man. I would never have thought I would do that but, hey, it works for both of us right now! He doesn't want kids and I've already done that. I'm just living in the moment and enjoying it for what it is. A lot of fun! 😉
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For me it's more about maturity or ability to make decisions at a certain age. I would consider a 19 year old dating a 39 year old very wrong even though it's legal, because the 19 year old is still at a vulnerable age and can be easily manipulated and controlled by someone much older. Same with younger people dating elderly people, say a 50 year old starting to date an 85 year old, I would be concerned that the 85 year old might get taken advantage of and there's many stories where that's the case. So I guess I do think there's an age gap too big but I couldn't put a number on it, it would depend on the actual ages of the people involved.
When there's an imbalance of power or if it's illegal.
I do tend to think being in very different life stages can pose an issue as well though. For example a 38 year old and a 23 year old are together. 38 year old might be ready to start having children but the 23 year old might not be there yet.
Or a 40 year old and a 60 year old, 60 year old might be thinking about retirement, settling down or travelling while 40 year old may be right in the prime of their career.
Depends, there isn’t a specific wrong age gap for me. For example a 20 year old dating a 16 year old is just gross and inappropriate but a 25 year old dating a 29 year old is not. Life stages, maturity and life experience matter.
I wouldn’t consider dating anyone close to my adult sons age, again, ick! Or close to my parents age, ick!
But also it’s important to take into account wether your potential partner may want kids etc. is there are power e balance with finances (being financially set in life while your partner is starting out can set up a power e balance etc).
It's different for everyone. I prefer older men, at least 10 years older but not more than 20. If I was 15 dating a 25 year old that would be wrong obviously but I'm in my 30s now. As long as it's not illegal and there's not a power imbalance I think it's fine.
Iv dated man with gaps as bit as 21 years.
As long as they're a pair of consenting adults, who cares.
I don't really care as long as he's not younger 🤣🤣🤣
I'm a 48 woman seeing a 30 year old man. I would never have thought I would do that but, hey, it works for both of us right now! He doesn't want kids and I've already done that. I'm just living in the moment and enjoying it for what it is. A lot of fun! 😉